Help me pleaseeeeee

PS I texted her back asking her if this could all stop as I’m just exhausted and don’t have the mental capacity for it. I told her that we’re now arguing at home (not sure if I should have said that but I did) I told her to stop taking things so personal.

I’m just full of anger for her about how she’s causing such a horrible relationship with me and my bf. This is all because I didn’t give her the attention she desired. Should I say this to her ? lol

My boyfriends parents are like this! 🙄 honestly they said I’m not welcoming and make them feel uncomfortable 😂 because I don’t offer them a cup of tea when they are here…
Bet if you sat there and done nothing she would be judging you for not doing housework can’t win with the older generation 🙄

You and hubby when things calm
Down and you guys not mad at each other . need to talk about this more in a respectful manner. Figure out why he’s mad (because I’m confused on why) and also speak your side and you guys come with a plan to not let this happen again . It’s obvious mil has insecurity’s that has maybe nothing to do with you idk . But base on your story she was trippin . So discuss this with your husband respectfully . You guys can work this out . Me and my husband go through this all the time to the point we both know it’s b.s . He talk to me about it I speak the truth of what it is and we move on . If she does this a lot he should eventually see through it . But don’t keep losing your cool over it . Make her look like the crazy one . And if your hubby choose not to understand. Give it to god and let him handle it . If you don’t believe then still keep your cool and let him chill on the situation. You said what you have to say . Don’t keep pushing your point he heard you .

How old is she?
I find one of my grandmas is very much like this and she sadly now lives a very lonely life at times despite living within walking distance of 3 of her daughters because she feels insecure and feels intruding a lot.
Has caused her many arguments with them too but she doesn't do it maliciously I have seen her cry just telling me how insecure she feels at times around bothering ppl....It is truly heartbreaking for ppl that struggle that much.
But I also can understand how frustrating it is because I have hosted and no matter how welcome I try to make her feel sometimes she ends up feeling like she is bothering and I have felt so mad at it.

I do think it is an issue with your husband at how he blamed it on you because he knew you were recovering etc so you weren't in a position to host and if he knows his mother is someone that feels unwelcomed easily he should've made it clear to her in advance that you are ill and also just not blamed you as that's simply the way his mum is.

This is insane 🥲 Did anyone explain you were feeling unwell before/during the visit . Why couldn’t she have just spoke to her son and grandson ? This is stressful on top of being ill . Do you otherwise have a good relationship with her or is this her character ?