Worried about my toddler (twins coming next month)
I’m at that stage of twin pregnancy where I’m getting more and more anxious and I think a lot of my anxiety is around my two year old. He is such a good boy, he sleeps well, doesn’t have huge tantrums and just has such a lovely personality. I’m worried we are just throwing a grenade into his life and how he’s going to react to two new babies entering his world. He hasn’t really wanted to talk about the babies when iv brought it up he doesn’t seem hugely interested so far. Iv read things about trying to spend time still the two of us where possible, tending to him first if everyone’s crying but does anyone who has lived through this have any tips? Babies are due in a month. Thanks so much.
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My twins were born when my little boy was 2 years and three weeks. So he was newly 2. We did what you said above and tended to him first, got him a present from the babies, got them a present from him, just got him to help pass nappies, praised him for being gentle. Having twins is definitely a crazy experience for him but he loved them from day one and I think because he was so young he didn't really get jealous etc. it was the norm for him very quickly.
My daughter was 2.5 years old when my twins were born (they're 5 months now). Honestly, she's a very good and resilient kid and she has done well. She's affectionate towards them. For the first month she was a little bit more clingy but she's adapted well. She still goes to nursery twice a week, I go to playgroup with her one morning while my husband looks after the twins. It's not much advice apart from, it sounds like your toddler is in good routines and that should reassure you that he'll probably be able to cope with this better than you think 😊.
My boy was 2.5 when the twins arrived. Lots of hospital in the run up to birth, baby brother in nicu for a month so me and dad were pretty absent at home. He was honestly totally and utterly fine. Was obsessed with his babies from the start, they’re nearly 2 now and the first thing he’s still obsessed with showing them off to all his friends. It’s an adjustment, someone always has to wait but just try and keep things as normal as possible for him and give him as much 1:1 time as you can (not always easy). I made sure that he still went to his gymnastics and swimming etc, the ladies at nursery made an extra fuss of him, grandma made an extra fuss of him and he got so much extra snuggly tv time (win for him). Don’t panic, they adapt. I bought my son a really good present ‘from the babies’ and he knew he was getting it when they came, so he was super excited for them to arrive. Also packed him a little bag of all new books, colouring, puzzles, stickers etc that he could independently do
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