NEED TO RANT
My husband and I have recently come abroad with our baby to meet his parents and family. We have been here 1 day and he has gone out drinking with his friends. I wouldn’t mind usually except he came home at 8:30pm drunk looking for a bottle of alcohol. His mum enables him and they were opening every cupboard imaginable and making so much noise that he woke our baby up. Our baby who hasn’t slept today due to the amount of visitors we have had. He then got his drink and left again. He left the room in such a mess as well. He didn’t even apologise for waking our child up showing he doesn’t care at all.
I’m fed up because we have come to see his family and introduce our baby. I don’t speak the language either so there’s a barrier. Most of them are telling me what to do (using arm gestures etc so we understand each other) and I’m lonely. It’s not a break or holiday for me. I enjoy myself more at home. I know while I’m here I’ll just be stuck inside at home every day and that isn’t what I want for me and my baby.
I feel like I want out of my marriage. Am I wrong with how I feel? x
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You are justified in how you feel. My husband is Turkish and we go to Türkiye in November to introduce LO for the first time. Ive immediately set my boundaries. He is allowed 1 night out and that's it- if he wants to see his friends, then me and baby are coming too. I have a language barrier with his family too so I know that it can be lonely.
And ive said that if he even tried to go out more than ive said, or doesnt ask me (maybe I'll give him more time away but undecided - I'llsee how it goes) then I'll be catching the first flight back home and taking baby with me.
I guess im lucky in the fact that my mother-in-law and sisters-in-law would be on my side and back me up if I wasn't happy with his behaviour.
Try and sit down and have a conversation with him about it and tell him how you feel x
Nope. You’re entitled to feel this way, you’re being the adult right now and yes we can all go out and drink but there’s limits when we travel with kids. If he doesn’t listen after venting it out, that’s a time to ask for space. See how he likes that.
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NEED TO RANT
My husband and I have recently come abroad with our baby to meet his parents and family. We have been here 1 day and he has gone out drinking with his friends. I wouldn’t mind usually except he came home at 8:30pm drunk looking for a bottle of alcohol. His mum enables him and they were opening every cupboard imaginable and making so much noise that he woke our baby up. Our baby who hasn’t slept today due to the amount of visitors we have had. He then got his drink and left again. He left the room in such a mess as well. He didn’t even apologise for waking our child up showing he doesn’t care at all.
I’m fed up because we have come to see his family and introduce our baby. I don’t speak the language either so there’s a barrier. Most of them are telling me what to do (using arm gestures etc so we understand each other) and I’m lonely. It’s not a break or holiday for me. I enjoy myself more at home. I know while I’m here I’ll just be stuck inside at home every day and that isn’t what I want for me and my baby.
I feel like I want out of my marriage. Am I wrong with how I feel? x
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