Pension beneficiary

Hey mamas so I need to know if I’m in the wrong here.

Me and my partner have been together for nearly 12 years and we had our beautiful son in October last year and got engaged in December.
I’m 29 now and he’s 30 I’ve worked since I was 17 and obviously paid into my pension now, before we had our son he was my beneficiary but last month I changed it to my son without discussing it with him.
He is very upset and feels like I’m “pushing him out” and is also really upset that I didn’t discuss it with him first before changing it. I didnt think it would upset him, I didn’t think I needed to discuss since it’s my money that I’ve worked hard for.

Just to add he’s never had a job, so never paid into a pension so I personally don’t think he has a say

I guess I could understand if he had been paying into a pension and he put me as his beneficiary and I had my son but I’m really struggling to understand why he’s upset with me.

Please tell me if I’m in the wrong or if he is just being really dramatic about it.

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