Advice please
Please can I get some advice? My husband is due to go on a trip to Paris for three days to see his friend. However, currently our baby girl is going through the four month regression her sleep is all over the place she’s teething really badly. She also has a cough at the moment and we think she might have a stomach bug because she’s having a lot of toileting issues. I’m taking her to the doctor today. I have been visibly stressed and upset the last few days because it has all become very difficult and challenging and the lack of sleep has not helped. I was due to go and stay with his parents this weekend while he goes on the trip, however yesterday he offered to cancel his trip and stay home with us. I don’t know what to do obviously I would rather he cancelled the trip and stayed with us because things are so difficult and I would be more comfortable with him at home then going and staying with my in-laws. However, if I ask him to cancel, I know I’ll feel so guilty every time I look at him this weekend knowing he could’ve been in Paris having a good time but instead he’s stuck with us what would you do?
Just to add, my husband did say he wasn’t sure he felt particularly comfortable leaving us both this weekend having said that he has not cancelled his trip. He’s asked me if I want him to cancel it.
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How easy is it to rearrange? Is it free to cancel? If easy, then maybe cancel. However, if it were me I would begrudgingly let him go, and stay with his parents for extra support x
That sounds like a lot to deal with for one person. If the situation was reversed and you were meant to go away, would he have been okay with that?
I don't know, I think it's wild he's going away for fun for 3 days with a small baby, ill or not ill. Do you get to do that as well?
Knowing the situation is what it is and the baby is not well, I would definitely be disappointed he did not already cancel the trip on his own.
I'd stay with the in-laws,you'll get through it and you'll have help and it'll be good for your relationship in the bigger picture. He'll be in a better state to show up for baby too, not totally necessary for you both to be at your wits end
It sounds like he's understanding which is a great thing. If you have the offer to stay elsewhere with support that sounds like a great plan. If he doesn't actually want to go then he can stay home and support
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Advice please
Please can I get some advice? My husband is due to go on a trip to Paris for three days to see his friend. However, currently our baby girl is going through the four month regression her sleep is all over the place she’s teething really badly. She also has a cough at the moment and we think she might have a stomach bug because she’s having a lot of toileting issues. I’m taking her to the doctor today. I have been visibly stressed and upset the last few days because it has all become very difficult and challenging and the lack of sleep has not helped. I was due to go and stay with his parents this weekend while he goes on the trip, however yesterday he offered to cancel his trip and stay home with us. I don’t know what to do obviously I would rather he cancelled the trip and stayed with us because things are so difficult and I would be more comfortable with him at home then going and staying with my in-laws. However, if I ask him to cancel, I know I’ll feel so guilty every time I look at him this weekend knowing he could’ve been in Paris having a good time but instead he’s stuck with us what would you do?
Just to add, my husband did say he wasn’t sure he felt particularly comfortable leaving us both this weekend having said that he has not cancelled his trip. He’s asked me if I want him to cancel it.
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