I feel done.
- for a whole month my son has been difficult, meltdowns intensely, he’s getting angry so quickly, he’s punching me up, he’s throwing his shit, he’s now broken my tv … and it’s like he doesn’t give a shit… we stopped nursery because this all began when that began…
We’ve educated him enough on do and donts and he knows & knows the consequences but I’m like… so numb and done
Sorry for the vent
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How old is he?
I feel like he needs to go to therapy.
Hows his language and communication?
My daughter is that way. My daughter thinks more creatively and like building more than imaginative play. We give me more stem toys as that helps her decompress. We've started behavioral therapy for her and working on the little spot emotions. She has no dyes as those tend to ramp up her agression/sadness. It's a lot, I understand and I'm still struggling too. Just hold the boundaries, and consequences. If hes just screaming and throwing a tantrum, sit next to him calmly, its called a time in. So he doesn't feel excluded. If hes hurting you then you say 'i won't let you hurt me please go to your room so we are all safe' if he doesn't then carry him to his room.
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