Advice/ perspective

I’m guessing you aren’t together? Are you breastfeeding? I’d look into setting up a formal arrangement and do think it’s unlikely that a court would be in favour of separating such a young baby from their primary caregiver for weeks at a time.

We was together but he broke up with me over this I just don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or if it’s normal to feel uncomfortable with it

Absolutelyyyyyy not. I would have the same opinion. I wouldn’t sleep a wink. I’d want 24/7 camera footage feed from their house! … you’re not unreasonable in the slightest. This is your bonding time. Even one night is difficult let alone a whole week.

Nopeee my baby is 7 weeks and I can’t stand to even be away from her for 5 mins if they offer to hold her while I eat. Babies this young only really know mummas scent and heartbeat so it’s important she stays with you. If he loved her he’d do what’s best for her right now

No way would I let my baby out of my sight!
My boy has just turned two and he still not gone anywhere without me.

What contact are you allowing currently? Apply for mediation to come to an agreement. From 6 month old baby is able to do overnights (courts do grant them this young starting 1-2 nights and building up to 50/50 - also 1 week on 1 week off). I’d be careful though if BF as this should not be used as a barrier to not allow a father overnights there’s ways around it

i still don’t like to be away from my children now aged 6 & 3 the most they have ever done is one night at grandparents house and that only started in the last 6 months! i don’t think you are being unreasonable

Girl, Protect your baby! it’s still too young to be without you. You’re not being unreasonable. That fact that your ex is saying a 2 months old baby needs to “get used to it” is CRAZY.

I know he is and that’s what I’m trying to tell him but he is just not understanding me . And all this started because I asked if he could come and watch his son while I go to university and he told me that his mom suggested to come and pick him up and take him to his for a week😩

This sounds like such a stressful but whatever pressure you feel PLEASE do not allow your 2 month old away from you for a week or more. It’s too long for such a small baby to be away from his mama. Besides that, how would you be certain that the baby is around safe adults? At some point within that week or two he will fob the baby off to his parents or relatives to look after. Does he work? Study? See friends?

I know fathers have rights too so my literal only compromise would be if you guys are cool(ish), can he come and stay with you for a few days or however long you feel comfortable so he can spend quality time with his son.

Btw, adults should be seeking out children- not vice versa. If his family want to spend more time with the baby then they can come to where the baby lives in order to see him. You should definitely facilitate visits with all of the babies family but you have no duty whatsoever to trek over to where they’re at so they can see their grandchild. Hope it works x

You aren’t being unreasonable.

It would destroy me to be away from my baby that young. Mine is 7 months old and I’ve never been away g from him for more than 2 hours, and never over night.

It might be worth saying that even baby is ready, perhaps when they are over a year old, you would love for them to get that over night time together, but just not yet.

I wonder if you could get him to talk to someone sensible to get some perspective? It sounds like me m he might be casting you as the evil woman using the kids as a weapon etc, which you absolutely aren’t, but I expect your life would be easier if he had a wiser perspective