HELP

I dunno where to ask this...

My toddler is supposed to go on a play date tomorrow to an indoor play cafe. I will be brining my 5m old.

Me and the other mum booked it last night.

The mum just messaged saying her toddler has HFM?! Said they had it the worst at the start of the week. Mainly moulth ulcers. And that she is her normal self now. They are still planning on going.

My toddler hasnt had it before. Im scared of it. I paid THIRTEEN POUNDS.

Im in 2 minds... im pissed off.
1. I dont want either kiddos to get it.
2. Will it be ok??
3. Pissed that a kid with HFM is going and not my healthy kids.

What would you do?!

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I wouldn’t go. Not something you or your kids want to catch. But I’d probably warn the indoor cafe that this other mother is planning to take her sick child there.

Nah don't go. HFM can be mild or it can be horrific. It's transmitted through touch and you can get it over and over again. It's irresponsible of her to be taking a child with it to somewhere they will pass it on.

It's similar to chicken pox in that it is contagious until the liquid in the blisters has dried up...

I'd be annoyed to. Maybe call the centre and ask to go to an earlier time slot and then leave before they arrive. Obviously let them know that you don't want to risk your kiddos catching it, especially your baby. Xx

I agree 🙁 their refund / reorganisation policy is pretty strict so thats out the window. I have emailed & messaged the center on insta for now. Ahhh im so annoyed at her!!! So irresponsible x

I'm pretty sure HFM is most contagious before the spots show hence why kids are still allowed into nursery or school whilst having the spots. Although I completely understand airing on the side of caution with the baby being so young x

I definitely wouldn’t be going, even if it meant losing £13. My toddler was awful with HFM. I’d never take my kids out somewhere if they had been ill with it in the same week, quite naughty I think!

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