Am I wrong?

Am I wrong if I don't let hubby take care of our 1 month old if he's drinking? I'm not talking about one drink I'm talking a few sips of hard liquor and a couple beers. I don't feel bad bc as a former weed smoker he said if I happen to indulge again I would have to have a few bottles made for him so that he can take care of her. I wouldn't even smoke until she went to bed for the night. Tonight he took her from me after she was a bit upset after a bath and he had been drinking and reeked of cigarettes which irritated me. He also wanted to feed her while laying down which i am against because of gas. He always says I act like I'm doing this alone and I know I'm not but he never takes the initiative to do much himself and when he does it's usually after a few drinks. Idk just looking for anyone in a similar situation, not judgements. I've already had a conversation about the cigarette smoke with him but he brushes it off. 🙄🙄

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Oh absolutely not! You are not wrong in the slightest. If he has boundires ( the weed) then you can have them to!!

I stopped at “drinking”. Not wrong no, we’re talking about a baby he shouldn’t drink period

Nah if he wants to look after his baby, he can do it sober.

No! My boyfriend and I both stopped smoking and drinking when we found out I was pregnant. Maybe a hot take/controversial but I don’t believe anybody should be drinking or smoking in a house with a baby. Regardless if the baby is asleep or not. Babies deserve completely sober parents. We’ve both agreed to be alcohol and any kind of smoke free until the baby is in kindergarten. It’s the least we can do. We both grew up around alcohol and smoke, and really wish we hadn’t

Absolutely not! My fiancé (whom I’m trying to leave) is a heavy drinker when he isn’t working always threatens to take full custody of our 3 month old daughter. I always tell him how he thinks he’s going to take care of her when he always drinks. So no you are not wrong for not letting him take care of your baby. I completely understand what you’re going through.

You are definitely not wrong! I had gone through it with my husband when he was closer drinking and then lying about it. We used to drink all the time since we were bartenders but obviously once I got pregnant I couldn’t drink a nd he kept drinking and would lie about it. And it continued after my daughter was born. I had his mom come get him and took the keys from the car and said he was going to lose his family if he kept it up. I had raised my son by myself for 17 years and I told him I wouldn’t have a problem doing it again if he didn’t stop.
He chose his family after that and went to AA and has been such a better husband and father.
I wouldn’t let him deal with the baby while he was drinking. It’s our jobs to protect our babies. Men think they “know better” but they don’t have mother instinct and are dumb af sometimes.
And the smoke, second hand, is harmful for the baby!
You won’t be able to talk to him while he is drinking, he has to be sober

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Could someone explain the UK school system to me please?

I'm not from the UK but I asked my husband who grew up here and went to school here and everything and he also seems confused.

My kid is at nursery but I'm really confused about all the options after. There seem to be preschools, but some nurseries are also preschools, some people talk about kindergarten from 3+ but I think they are American. Then there's reception and year 1 and maybe some other things I didn't mention.

I read a thread about kids born in the summer months and that they can be held back. I'd like to do this with my kid but from what people said, it's not as straight forward. Several people said that if you hold them back a year, they would just start in y1 instead of reception, which I don't understand. They said there are only downsides because the kid would no longer be with their peers. A mum friend of mine has been talking about sending her kid to school once he turns three and that she can't wait to be done with nursery.

I'm just so confused. When I grew up in a different country, all we had was kindergarten from 3 till 6, then school. There was an option of going to preschool for those old enough for school but not mentally or physically ready yet. That was it. I think it had now changed there as well though.

If anyone could explain all this to me, I'd be super grateful!

Does anyone else have a higher percentile boy?

I don't know who to share it with, because I don't want to come off as ungrateful for such a healthy, big boy.. but my son is now 2 and a half, and officially 92% in height, and 94% in weight. He was born at 21 inches, and has always been in the high 80-90% range for height, weight, and head size.

It's just.. it's hard. He's 2. He's still waiting to be held all the time, and it was starting to be a struggle to hold him starting around a year old. It's not fair to him. I feel guilty. He didn't understand why I would have to put him down so quickly when he was younger, and I hope it didn't make him feel like I didn't want to or something.

It's a weird situation that none of my friends can relate to.

Does anyone here relate?

Thanks for listening 💕

(Adding that I have used baby carriers, hip packs, etc. He doesn’t like them.)

When you're trying to learn digital painting...

But your 3 year old decides to dictate what you draw.

Do you know what each one is? Because he does 😂

i guess i’m looking for validation

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