How should I go about this?
So my boyfriend and I recently found out we’re having a baby, I’m almost 10 weeks and things have been extremely rocky. I’m constantly in fear that he’s going to leave so in my anger I always try to leave before he does and that leads to bigger problems. Today we got into an argument because I saw him call a female at 3am the other day & it seems as if other calls in his call log have been deleted. He claims she’s “just an old friend” but I’ve used that excuse in the past (before we were dating, I’ve never cheated on him) In my anger I told him I was done and didn’t want to be with him anymore & that blew up. I immediately regretted it & apologized and tried to reassure him that I really do want us to be a strong parental unit for our child together but now he’s acting like we TRULY need to break up. I feel as though I can’t do this without him & I really don’t want to. Any advice would be appreciated.
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I’d suggest counseling. sit down and talk with him and say you want to try it and make it work. See what he thinks. But if you’re also so untrusting of him and angry with him and worried he’s gonna leave you then it might be a good time to leave as well. But I’d suggest talking yo him first and see about counseling and see if he wants to work it out too
Why do you want to be with someone who is talking with women suspiciously at 3 in the morning?
But seriously don’t stay because you think you can’t do it on your own. If he is cheating he will use that against you as a way to keep you trapped in an abusive dynamic. (Cheating is domestic abuse to be clear.)
This doesn’t sound like it’s going to work out in the long term. I’d think very hard about bringing a child into this situation, with this person, as I’m afraid to say it sounds like you’ll be a single mum in the future. Having a child puts stress on even the most solid of relationships.
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How should I go about this?
So my boyfriend and I recently found out we’re having a baby, I’m almost 10 weeks and things have been extremely rocky. I’m constantly in fear that he’s going to leave so in my anger I always try to leave before he does and that leads to bigger problems. Today we got into an argument because I saw him call a female at 3am the other day & it seems as if other calls in his call log have been deleted. He claims she’s “just an old friend” but I’ve used that excuse in the past (before we were dating, I’ve never cheated on him) In my anger I told him I was done and didn’t want to be with him anymore & that blew up. I immediately regretted it & apologized and tried to reassure him that I really do want us to be a strong parental unit for our child together but now he’s acting like we TRULY need to break up. I feel as though I can’t do this without him & I really don’t want to. Any advice would be appreciated.
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