Venting
I'm so mad. But like am I just crazy?
My husband had a work trip to France for a week at the end of September. I get it it's not a vacation but still, it's not like he's breaking his back working. He is literally just having social time with his coworkers all day long. Then he came back for 3 days and then he had a boys trip to Japan for 12 days. I already had my girls trip in June but my friend could only afford 5 days in Dominican lol. Whatever. I'm not mad that he had this boys trip. I'm just salty cause I literally haven't seen my husband for basically a whole month. He came back on Sunday and we went to the Zoo with the baby the day after and then he was back to work. When I tell you that I have barely spent time with my husband since he came back I mean it. Maybe 2/3 hours for the whole day. He doesn't go to sleep with me, he stays up gaming. I wake up he's not here. He comes home from work hangs around for like maybe an hour while I'm actively taking care of the baby and cooking, and then he goes to nap. It's not a problem that he takes a nap, it's a problem because it's not a nap! It's a full on sleep from 4:30pm-8pm and then he wakes up when baby is already down for the night and he continues on to game. Literally the whole night!!!! Mind you he doesn't spend time with baby. Or me. Idek the last time he even had a baby and papa day where he would watch her while I do nothing. Oh wait I do remember, never! Just because I drop off our baby for a couple days at his mom's house sometimes so I can have a break doesn't mean he can neglect fatherly duties. Getting him to change a diaper is like pulling teeth. And when the baby is a grandmas house guess what it's not like he takes advantage of that opportunity and spends quality time with me. He games!!!!! I'm fuming. I'm literally thinking about just telling him I'm going out and just be gone all day today. I'm so over it. I'm so sick of feeling like single mom. He always tells me how lucky I am to stay home and take care of baby like it's a freaking walk in the park with sunshine and rainbows. Like I try so hard be involved parent and take her out every day and not be nose deep in the phone or tv. Like when he's with her, he either got his phone out or TV is on. She's 11 months. And we been trying for another baby but omg Im having second thoughts about the second baby. I'm literally about to go on birth control cause I'm not gonna be single mom x2.
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Very valid reason to be fuming I would be too unacceptable I wouldn’t even let him nap
Mandatory 2 or 3 days of the week he gets to have baby from 4.30 to 6.30pm. Go on a walk, treat yourself to a coffee date with a friend, book a massage. He's a parent too with responsibilities
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For those who have seen and commented on my last post about my husband and the lack of taking care of our son me and him had a very long talk about it and essentially I told him if he does it start helping or doing better I am taking our son and leaving and apparently that got through to him very clearly and I gave him one last chance I had to go to an appointment that was about an hour and a half to two hours long the place was like right down the road from my house so I walked there and walked back because I like walking but I gave that time to my husband to see if he has the chance of actually stepping up or not and he did extremely well our son was in a clean diaper and was happy and fed and later on that night I went back and watched our baby monitor and he was actually doing what I asked him to do so clearly I got through to him but Idk if I can day I fully trust him yet
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Weaning ?
Anyone tried to give their little one food yet ?
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Urgent
We’ve gone to the children’s ER and urgent care , no answers. For most of the week my year-old has been having high fevers and really fussy and nonstop crying had on off diarrhea and doesn’t want to eat at all, and barely drinks much. She keeps pointing to her mouth, but can’t communicate what’s wrong to her teeth. Look OK from this photo?
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Venting
I'm so mad. But like am I just crazy?
My husband had a work trip to France for a week at the end of September. I get it it's not a vacation but still, it's not like he's breaking his back working. He is literally just having social time with his coworkers all day long. Then he came back for 3 days and then he had a boys trip to Japan for 12 days. I already had my girls trip in June but my friend could only afford 5 days in Dominican lol. Whatever. I'm not mad that he had this boys trip. I'm just salty cause I literally haven't seen my husband for basically a whole month. He came back on Sunday and we went to the Zoo with the baby the day after and then he was back to work. When I tell you that I have barely spent time with my husband since he came back I mean it. Maybe 2/3 hours for the whole day. He doesn't go to sleep with me, he stays up gaming. I wake up he's not here. He comes home from work hangs around for like maybe an hour while I'm actively taking care of the baby and cooking, and then he goes to nap. It's not a problem that he takes a nap, it's a problem because it's not a nap! It's a full on sleep from 4:30pm-8pm and then he wakes up when baby is already down for the night and he continues on to game. Literally the whole night!!!! Mind you he doesn't spend time with baby. Or me. Idek the last time he even had a baby and papa day where he would watch her while I do nothing. Oh wait I do remember, never! Just because I drop off our baby for a couple days at his mom's house sometimes so I can have a break doesn't mean he can neglect fatherly duties. Getting him to change a diaper is like pulling teeth. And when the baby is a grandmas house guess what it's not like he takes advantage of that opportunity and spends quality time with me. He games!!!!! I'm fuming. I'm literally thinking about just telling him I'm going out and just be gone all day today. I'm so over it. I'm so sick of feeling like single mom. He always tells me how lucky I am to stay home and take care of baby like it's a freaking walk in the park with sunshine and rainbows. Like I try so hard be involved parent and take her out every day and not be nose deep in the phone or tv. Like when he's with her, he either got his phone out or TV is on. She's 11 months. And we been trying for another baby but omg Im having second thoughts about the second baby. I'm literally about to go on birth control cause I'm not gonna be single mom x2.
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Boy mommas
Sorry for sounding rude, but are else’s little ones suddenly obsessed with playing with their w*llies?
We attempted potty training previously and it ended in lots of tears and distress so we are slowly coming back to it — a more gradual approach.
Wondering if this is a sign he’s ready (somehow)? Ie am I missing something 🤔 we offer potty when he pulls it out or starts playing, but seems he doesn’t always need to go.
On the other hand, it may be just a boy thing 😬
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My 8 month old hates food!
My son will be 8 months in a couple days and he absolutely hates food. Homemade… store bought, he is just not interested. I have to trick him into eating it, I pretend like I’m giving him water from a straw and then put the food in his mouth 😩. He’s starting to catch on now and will close his mouth TIGHT. It takes us three days to finish a jar of baby food!! And sometimes I just throw it away. Am I the only one dealing with this ? Any tips?
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