Partner left me, how do I cope at night plus a 4 yr old?!

Its just me now, 1st night on my own and my 8 week old sleeps so terribly, shes always unsettled , every 40mins or so. Feeds every 3 hrs.
I cant lay in as have a 4 yr old.
I dont actually know how to cope? Im terrified. Me and my partner were doing shifts so I'd get 5 hrs undisturbed sleep. To now have to do on my own, please give me some help to get her sleeping better or how I can cope
She has reflux, wakes her up but absolutely nothing works for this, not gaviscon, not ompeprazole, tried everything.
Even when it's not reflux, she is unsettled. Although very happy in the day. Co sleeping doesnt help, she is exact same

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How well does your oldest sleep?
Do you have any support network? Friends or family? Someone that can either sleep over and help or take one or both kiddies for you to get some sleep during day?
Maybe lo picked up on tensions between you and your partner?
Create a bit of a routine for baby, for example we do change bum and into pjs, story in my bed with dim light on, feed (ebf) and then bed. And if i dont stick to it then baby lets me know. My lo is 6 weeks now.

Good luck, you got this! X

My baby is 7 weeks and has reflux and is struggling she will scream most of the night and nothing will settle her. She refusing bottles because the reflux has given her a sore throat.

I would deffo get help from friends and family you need your village if you have one.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You have 100% got this. Do reach out to people for support, if that’s something you’re able to do.
It’s okay if all you’re doing is surviving - it won’t always be like that! Take each day as it comes and you’ll hopefully fall into a pattern and your baby will sleep more and more. Reach out if you want somebody to talk to x

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