First birthday?

No girl she’s not gonna remember it anyways 😭 it’s okay

Please don't feel like a horrible mom, it seems like you're doing a great job. I have land on not doing a birthday party for my twins they'll be one in December. Their birthday is 11 days before Christmas so I figured for their birthdays I would just take them places so first birthday will be the zoo if we can afford it because we just became homeless and now live in the car. Just do what you can and be grateful

My husband and I are planning on celebrating ours (when he does) at our home. Nothing wrong with that.

Don’t feel bad, do what you feel is best for your situation! My son turns 1 in March, and I have no intention of having a party for him. He will not remember it, his dad and I will likely have a drink at home and celebrate 1 year of survival 😂

First of, you’re not a horrible mom! Family members can be so fake and second, I think an inmate birthday party celebration with just you, your baby and whoever else lives in your house, would be great too! I mean just think about who was in that room when you first gave birth to her! Small little cake and doing all her fav things! No need to please ppl, I’m all for parties and celebrations but if financial it’s not possible, I believe you can still making it a special day without spending lots of money! You could do an arts and crafts day to remember the day by too! Whatever activities she loves!

I didn’t do a first birthday for either of my kids. Complicated family dynamic with my parents divorcing after 30 years. Didn’t want any drama so just made a cake and celebrated at home. Have enough junk aka toys. I have no regrets.

My middle was born just before covid. He didn't get a first birthday party either.

No offense, but I’d have to squabble with the family member who filed the report because what? Looking at your profile you look to have a happy and healthy baby, if you’re coming up on tough times that doesn’t mean you’re not capable of taking care of your child. As for first birthday, it’s perfectly okay to skip it, like another person said, your baby won’t remember it. Just take some nice pictures for your own memory of the day. If your family members opt not to gift or celebrate your child unless you’re throwing a party, they aren’t worth throwing a party for (because birthdays until about 5 are more for the adults). Cherish those who uplift you when you’re down.

Absolutely not a horrible mom. I tried to do something small for my son which snowballed into more and I was incredibly overwhelmed and I didn't even enjoy myself. My son also slept through most of it. It wasn't worth it

Girl don’t , I honestly think it’s a waste of money , take a family trio instead (that’s what I’m going with my son just my husband my son & I

I don’t plan on doing a 1st bday party either my daughter won’t remember it but I’m a diy photoshoot for her 1st yr and make dinner n cake

she only gets one first birthday, you might regret it down the line just treating it like a regular day, for your own memories. not that you have to go all out and make it expensive. just a thought.