Stress and arguments

Hi ladies, there has been a lot of arguments at home with my husband, it’s almost every 2nd or 3rd day due to some issue or the other with the main issue being how irresponsible and timid he is in every situation we are in, be it family, work, issues with our house etc. it’s come to a point that after years of being the person who handles all issues, I am so burnt out and stressed and this has caused pretty intense fights at home, more me yelling and him promising things in vain and nothing changes.

My biggest concern is how is this impacting our baby. Does constant fights, anxiety and stress harm the baby?

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I would say that being irresponsible is not good

But if he is timid by nature, you arent going to change that. Its who he is and asking him to change his very nature is quite unreasonable. Surely you knew he was timid before you had a child with him?

If he is timid and hates confrontation. He won’t change. Not everyone is actually wired that way. Maybe you’ll have to choose your battles instead? But also hard to understand what battles you facing? Because I’m timid and hates confrontation. But we don’t come across that many big issues that my partner gets burned out .

Arguments, stress and fights aren’t the best environment for a child. But also having disagreements is natural and we all have them. It’s also good for children to see parents communicate well and sort out their disagreements ❤️

Thanks appreciate it. Should have been clearer, I am 23 weeks pregnant and just worried about the baby being affected with me being constantly upset.

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