Why are so many parents against tv/screen time?
Me and all my 4 siblings were never “not allowed tv” we had access to it 24/7, we loved it…but we also loved playing together and playing outside. What is so terrible about watching tv?
As an adult who still spends time outside or playing with my kids, all I see is other adults staring at their phone, scrolling on social media…idk I’m just confused why there’s such a stigma around letting a child watch tv i guess.
All these influencers or mums on the playground I hear that say “no tv time for my kids” yet they spend all day everyday on their phone? If it’s damaging, why is there screens quite literally everywhere? Shouldn’t we try to do something about this?
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Well I’d like to point out the difference in neurodevelopment for a toddler in comparison to an adult. Children are very easily influenced by what they see, hear, etc on a screen. Many modern day options for tv shows are far too overstimulating for such young, immature, developing minds. Never mind the issues with unrestricted access to the internet.
The tv shows nowadays are also way different than what you watched as a kid
It’s not good for their brain function.
My brain is fully formed, my child’s is not. And even then I recognise that scrolling on my phone is not good for me.
A small amount of research about screen time for children would answer this question. It’s very well known that screen time for children is not recommended.
Surely you can also see there is a difference between 90’s cartoons and the shite aimed at children these days?
And that what adults do and what children should do are completely different?
This post feels like judgemental rage bait tbh.
I think there are extremes on either side, as with many things. With our daughter we made the choice, following current research, to keep screen time to a minimum until she was 2. Now we will watch a bit of TV a few times a week. I think screens have their uses and most children will need to be tech literate to exist in a modern world however there’s no rush for that and the reason you see so many adults with our heads in our phones is that were addicted to them 😂😂 I know I am but I make the effort to be off my phone as much as possible around my daughter and explain what I’m doing with it if not. There’s also a difference between having a tv on and having tablets which are more addictive and more isolating. Watching TV in my house is a social activity, we do it together and talk about it. I’ve never put the tv on to keep my daughter busy while I get stuff done, she just joins in or plays and is now at a stage where she happily plays independently for decent chunks of time.
I have no idea but I do find the “bring back 90s summers” because we all didn’t watch tv. I remember having a game boy, play station, cartoons on all the time! I watched the VHS of Mary Poppins so many times I broke our VHS player! 😂
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