Am I over reacting
Today is my baby shower, one of my friends has let me down due to having no baby sitter however she has been out drinking all night so surely who ever had her child could keep him for a couple more hours ? Maybe I’m thinking selfishly but I just feel like it’s an excuse.
Then my mum and sister have been out drinking last night and are now hungover , my sister is asking if she can just stay at home instead.
I feel really upset about this but feel like I’m just being selfish because obviously they have there own lives and they can do as they please
How would you feel ?
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First of all a big hug to u. Feeling disappointed in this situation is 100% valid and I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with these emotions on what should be such a special day for you. Regarding your friend I wouldn’t spend too much energy wondering whether the babysitter could have kept her child for a few more hours. There might be reasons you don’t know about or perhaps the arrangements genuinely fell through. I’d try to give her the benefit of the doubt rather than letting that thought upset you even more.
With your mum and sister though I think I’d feel really disappointed too. Of course everyone has their own lives and can make their own choices but a baby shower is a special occasion that you’ve likely been looking forward to and planning for weeks. Its not unreasonable to expect the people closest to you to make an effort to be there especially when it’s such an important milestone in your life
I'd be piiiiiiised off and upset
They knew today was important and they chose to go out drinking
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Am I over reacting
Today is my baby shower, one of my friends has let me down due to having no baby sitter however she has been out drinking all night so surely who ever had her child could keep him for a couple more hours ? Maybe I’m thinking selfishly but I just feel like it’s an excuse.
Then my mum and sister have been out drinking last night and are now hungover , my sister is asking if she can just stay at home instead.
I feel really upset about this but feel like I’m just being selfish because obviously they have there own lives and they can do as they please
How would you feel ?
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