Sick of it
Is anyone else just sick of being the default parent?
I understand my partner works but the weekends he’s home. For context he has had 3 days off this weekend already not once has he got up with our baby (we have 2 children) 4 year age gap.
I do both bed times, wake up with both of them, make sure they’re fed and cleaned while he plays his games to “unwind” while I’m getting wound up.
His mum comes up and acts like I’m the one who should be doing everything and acts offended if I ask her son to do anything. And tonight!!!!! He was awake while our child was waking up crying. He didn’t help he actually waited for my sleep to be disturbed and then just said oh are they ok? Like he wasn’t awake the whole time!!!!!!!! I’m sick of it personally
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Yes. I am in the same boat🙄xx
I’ve been there and it’s honestly exhausting. It’s not fair that everything falls on you. Stand your ground—you deserve rest and support too. He’s their parent just as much as you are. Being constantly burnt out takes a toll on you and leaves you with less energy for your kids. You shouldn’t have to reach breaking point before he steps up 🤍
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Is anyone else just sick of being the default parent?
I understand my partner works but the weekends he’s home. For context he has had 3 days off this weekend already not once has he got up with our baby (we have 2 children) 4 year age gap.
I do both bed times, wake up with both of them, make sure they’re fed and cleaned while he plays his games to “unwind” while I’m getting wound up.
His mum comes up and acts like I’m the one who should be doing everything and acts offended if I ask her son to do anything. And tonight!!!!! He was awake while our child was waking up crying. He didn’t help he actually waited for my sleep to be disturbed and then just said oh are they ok? Like he wasn’t awake the whole time!!!!!!!! I’m sick of it personally
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