Venting

Ok i feel really bad but i have no one to vent to. Lately ive been finding myself frustrated with my husband. I feel like he’s not as helpful as he used to be. He works over night so he can stay home with the baby while I’m at work but all he does is sleep and wakes up to feed her when she wakes up and than goes back to sleep. Luckily she sleeps a lot during the day so he is rested. Where as me, i go to work, do laundry, cook, clean, do my homework, fold laundry, put it away, pack his lunch etc. Today i left some used bottles on the sink to wash when i had time, i swore my husband told me he took care of the bottles. I just walked passed the sink and they are just sitting in hot water and soap 😡. Also he has not been so supportive during my panic attacks and anxiety and tells me o just need to put it behind me. I feel like we are disconnected but he says he doesn’t feel that way. I feel so alone. Sorry for the long vent! Thanks for reading.

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Cheating husband

Husband cheated what should I do ?
I caught him ,I got in contact with the girl and asked some questions that was important for me to know yes they had sex she was his GF since may of this year ,they did go out on a date mind you I had our first baby in July I find this information out at the end of September.He is telling not to tell no one because he is worry about his image ,but like. I don’t care because I am going through postpartum by self and depression has kicked in The excuse he gave has angered me and it lives rent free in my head but my daughter is the reason I get up because she deserves the best from her mom I cry in the shower or when she is sleep .I try to be strong because I only breast feed and all of this tanks my milk supply.

Blended family contact time

My partner sees his son from his previous marriage the majority of the time. He takes him on days out. Only two weekend days are for our shared son and I. He says it's because he doesn't see his older son during the work week. But during the work week, our shared son is not at home and we just do the bed time routine. He has to commute back and forth to pick up his first son and often is tired for us but he does force himself to do things with us even if it tires him.

To be fair He does invite us to go with them but his son often snatches toys from kids, recently he kicked my toddler who went flying backwards. I don't think he is a good influence on our son but his dad doesn't want to discipline him because he feels guilty and his mother says that saying no to their son is bad. I am limiting time with them now which now puts the childcare of my son with me for the majority of the weekend. Do you think two days is sufficient for our shared son?

Discipline

Do you hit/spank your kids if they don’t listen or do something wrong? According to the Bible you are supposed to. I grew up in a home that did believe in whoopings and never thought I would hit my kids. I hear some people don’t but what do you do when your kids don’t listen? My boys don’t listen AT ALL! I’m a sahm.

I’m angry and disgusted

I didn’t sleep well last night because my daughter is teething and she was up all night. This morning after everyone was up I asked my husband to take the kids so I can get some sleep. My son is potty training he needed to pee he ran to the toilet but didn’t reach in time so he peed on the bathroom floor (this was about an hour after I asked my husband to watch them). I heard my son go to his dad who was watching tv and said daddy I peed on the floor my husband responded “go to your mom tell her to wash and change you”. My son did exactly that I got up and bath him and changed him after that I got ready and went to do grocery thinking that my husband cleaned the pee on the bathroom floor down stairs(we have two bathrooms). When I came back from doing grocery I went into the bathroom and saw the floor was covered with pee. I went to him who was still seating watching tv and asked him why didn’t you clean the pee off the floor he responded ”oh you didn’t do that”

Mother in law advice...

So my mother in law is a very difficult person, very self centred and selfish, everything is always a performance or a show.

I am carrying my first baby, but her second grandchild. I just feel like she is crossing boundaries already.

She is buying or accepting baby things off vinted and friends without asking us first. She has sent me a long list of things her friend has given her, however most of which I already have, and some I don't want or haven't looked into yet.
I just feel like why couldn't she have just asked before accepting. I always get made to feel like i cannot say no to her, she is very pressuring.
I feel like she is just trying to completely take over and get overly involved. She has 3 children of her own, and her daughter has a child which she is very very involved in.
I feel like buying for baby is a personal thing and something my husband and I wanted to enjoy together. Or I would be happy for her to buy things but just to ask first, but she doesnt listen.

I just feel so upset 😡

Advice on how to handle her? Im also worried about when baby comes how she will be...

Don’t judge me please

I need advice from married women, especially those living in the UK. I am pregnant, and my husband keeps making excuses whenever I ask him for money to buy baby essentials. I am worried because I still need to prepare for my baby’s arrival. Has anyone experienced this situation? How did you handle it? Please share your honest advice without judging me.