Why is my body failing me?
My twins were born at 36.6 week which is a standard for twin delivery. They are now 13 days old but unable to latch or suck on my breasts. I dont know why my body isnt producing enough milk or the right flow. My babies like the bottle with easy flow now, we were not aware of natural start teets and got them the normal ones of TT . I am really struggling and crying almost everyday, not sure what is wrong. I am expressing milk 4-5 times a day 15 min each. On top of that a midwife said if they havent learned to latch yet, high chances that they wont do it at all. I really want to breastfeed my babies, any suggestions are welcome. Desperately looking for help . đ„ș
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Have they been checked for tongue tie? 5 out of 9 of us with mt first babyâs NCT group had tongue tie including my first. There is âmilk clinicsâ where you can go for free help and advice
If you can afford it, it is probably 100% worth your time looking at local private lactation consultants (IBCLC qualified). I got help from a great one called Lucy Webber (her social media is super helpful) who I know does offer virtual consultations but that may not be quite as helpful as someone who could see you face to face. Via the health visitor / midwife you may also be able to access a NHS feeding specialist and as above, in my area there are breastfeeding support groups where you can get advice from peer supporters. Sending lots of love - breastfeeding journeys are all different and can be so emotional
Your body is not failing you. Bf is hard work and it's ok to struggle. Especially with twins. I would definitely find a consultant to help you with it. With my first I did and it saved my bf journey. I could after this breastfeed for 2.5 years. Needing help is not failing.
My girl is 18 days old. Not latching yet but not giving up hope. Please please donât feel your body is failing. Babyâs find it easier to feed from bottles so itâs hard to encourage them to not be â lazyâ and latch and continue to latch for a whole feed. I spoke with multiple midwifes on my stay in hospital all with different scenarios of previous patients. One of them couldnât get their baby to latch till 3 months in then breast fed for 2 years. Hold hope and give you and your body less pressure. Fed is best. however itâs done.
Sorry itâs not helpful just wanting to comment to say give yourself some love
I delivered my daughter same time as u dear so my daughter is exactly 13days old as well and we are having the same issuesâŠ.. she just seems like she cannot be bothered to try latching onto the breast and get so fussy whenever I try⊠what I do is put her on the breast still and whenever she starts crying my milk start flowing and then I pumpâŠ. But I still have to use a bit of formula every now and thenâŠ. She my third and only child to face this problem with as my other two babies latched on well⊠I keep putting her on as I am hopeful that as she gets stronger her latch will get better⊠come along lets do this together
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