Motherhood - Loneliness UK 🖤🖤

Hope it’s okay to post..
But anyone else find motherhood lonely at times? Feel like you have everyone but still feel lonely 😞

I stay in Scotland and have two kiddies 🖤🖤

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Help PLEASE - nursery or career break?

My baby is a Velcro baby who I adore, I haven’t left him at all (apart from leaving him with his dad to go to the shops every now and again and twice to get my nails done twice). We moved away and have no family / friends who can watch him. He will be 1 in December.

I work from home with a well paid job (I’m a nurse so this is very hard to come by). If I do go back to work now it will be part time (2/3 days a week).

It gives me such bad anxiety and makes me so sad the thought of having to put him into nursery!! I worry he will think I’ve abandoned him and worry he won’t sleep or eat there. He is exclusively breastfed and we co-sleep. Only in the past week has my partner been able to put him to sleep for naps.

I can either put him in nursery in January 2026, when I’m due back at work, or take a career break for up to one year and start him in nursery in January 2027 (the nursery I really want him to go to doesn’t have a place until September 2026).

We don’t have tons of money but could get by on savings and my partner working. My dad has also very kindly said he can give £1000 a month for 1 year to contribute.

Do I take the career break now? Or do I wait? (If I don’t take it now I plan to take it when we have our second child which makes more financial sense). I can only take one career break with the company.

I think I would be happier sending him to nursery when he is 2 years old as he can hopefully talk by then and I can tell him what’s happening and that I’m not leaving him! But means I will have to send my second child to nursery when they’re 1 years old - if we’re lucky enough to have a second! I also don’t know if my dad will be able to provide financial help in the future if I turn down his offer now and go back to work.

Any suggestions with what to do would mean so much to me!

Thank you 🩷 xxx

High sex drive

I’ve always had a really high sex drive, but when I met my now husband, I was OBSESSED with him 😂🔥 We wouldn’t see each other every day because of work and other things, but whenever we did, we could easily have sex three times a day, around 3 or 4 times a week.

Then we moved in together, and somehow it got even worse. I was so horny that just waking up next to him was enough to get me going. I’d jump on him in the morning, again as soon as we got home from work, and then again after dinner during our chill time. This was pretty much every single day, apart from the first few days of my period, and it went on for a couple of years.

Then he proposed, and my sex drive somehow reached a whole new level. There were nights when we’d have sex five times! We got married, and I swear I still couldn’t get enough of him. I just loved having him inside me, kissing him, touching him, everything. I’d try anything with him, even things I used to find disgusting before meeting him. Somehow, with him, it was all fun, exciting, and a massive turn on 🥵

Then we had our daughter, but even pregnancy didn’t really slow us down. We kept having sex every day, although during the last trimester it went down to once a day. After giving birth, waiting the full six weeks felt like torture. I even asked my midwife if I could start earlier, but she said no, so I waited until I was cleared.

And guess what? As soon as we could, we were back at it two or three times a day!

My husband has never complained about my sex drive, and honestly, I feel so lucky that we have such a passionate sex life. I still can’t get enough of him!

So, my question is, are there other women like me? Is it normal to have such a ridiculously high sex drive?

Coming off the pill

So me and my partner have decided it’s time to start trying to another baby, on the 25th sept I came off the pill. According to Flo I’m 5 days late for my period but all the pregnant tests I’m taking are saying negative? Has anyone else experienced this? If so was you pregnant or was it your body adjusting to being off contraception?

pregnancy loneliness

does anyone else just feel super alone ? i feel like nobody understands my pregnancy journey or how it feels , sometimes i feel like im the only pregnant woman in the world.
i don’t really have any friends that have kids so, i can’t really go and speak to anyone about it.

Leave or stay?

Would you leave if your husband said he hated you?

Am I the crazy one?

Right, hear me out! 6 weeks ago my fiance and partner of 10 years cheated on me with a girl from work he’s had a ‘connection with’ for many years.

We have split up, but living in the same home as we need to sell it and have a 2 year old + I’m pregnant.

He’s like dating this girl from work now and he’s messaging her constantly which is rating the fuck out of me as he’s at times ignoring our daughter but whatever.

His birthday is Tuesday, our daughter has chicken pox so is unwell and out of childcare. I work Tuesday Wednesday Thursday. He’s planning to go out Tuesday night with the girl and get a hotel, whatever idc about that (although he forgets we have dogs that sleep with him and when he’s not here they wake me and our daughter up through the night barking so that’s great!).. anyway, he’s saying he doesn’t need to rush back Wednesday, I said well I need to work (I’m wfh apart from a few visits) and our daughter is off, he’s not bothered and suggested I TAKE LEAVE!!! He says it’s his birthday so he’ll so what he wants. He cannot see why I’m furious with him and think it’s me being unreasonable. I don’t wanna talk to family and friends for an opinion, so I’m coming here to see if I’m mental?