Am I the crazy one?

Am so sorry you are going through this and you are not mental. Your feelings are valid but try and now work it out for you and your daughter without expecting much from him. It will lessen the anger of having to talk to someone that won’t even bother understanding exactly where you’re coming from because trust me he knows what he is supposed to do. Men have no remorse and right now of all moments, he doesn’t have it. It might come back later but right now take care of you and your daughter like he doesn’t even exist.

Firstly I’m so sorry that you’re going through this, and secondly no you’re not mental at all. You are incredibly strong to be in that situation. What he’s doing is very selfish and insensitive and I’m sure you don’t deserve it. I can understand you not wanting to speak to family and friends, but it is the best thing to do just to tell one person so they can be there for you. You have nothing to be ashamed of - and at this point you don’t owe him keeping his actions a secret. He needs to be held accountable xx

I’m stuck on the part that he doesn’t wanna celebrate his birthday with you and your family that you guys created together.
I come from the perspective where my parents met at 18 and my dad was by my mother side until the day she died this year. They had two kids me and my brother.
I also see the side that if the partnership isn’t worth living with like in my situation with my son and my baby daddy and it’s an unhealthy environment for your children and yourself then you need to do what’s best for your mental health and Sanity.

My best advice to you is to to figure out if couples counseling can fix your relationship, maybe put that up on the table until you can find some stability. The grass is always greener on the other side. I have known people to have affairs and be able to work back to a healthy relationship. It all depends on what you both want as a couple moving forward.

Also, I’m really sorry you’re going through this life is not always that easy

Also, in order to move forward, you will need to lean on family support. Good luck to you.

so sorry to read this but no, youre definitely not mental. Kids come first dont they xx

I’ve been through this, there’s no way back. He’s long gone and so disrespectful.. you don’t even try to waste your time and energy explaining yourself to him, he knows nexactly what’s happening.

As hard as it is, you have to get used to the fact he’s unreliable, and that moving forward it will be you doing most if not all the effort with your kids.

The most angry/upset/crazy you’ll be the most he’ll act indifferent and challenge you even more. Then later, the more you will ignore him or tell him to stay away, the more he will get in your way and try to take control over anything he can, to make you as miserable as possible in the end

As much as it hurts, you have to act indiferent in front of him, and be like sure, no problem, and in your heart and mind, you keep the score in the meantime and QUIETLY (don’t warn him of your plans or natural consequences of his actions, he’ll accuse you of threatening him) so quietly find ways to get him out of your life forever and limit his “right