I think I'm falling out of love with my partner, and honestly, I just want to experience being in love again

Lately, I've been feeling like I'm falling out of love with my partner. I don't know if it's resentment or if I'm genuinely just tired of him, but sometimes even looking at him irritates me.

I feel like all he does is work, come home, and play video games. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate that he works, but sir, if you were single, wouldn't you still have to work AND take care of your home?

I'm tired of asking a grown man to do basic things. Take out the trash? "Tomorrow." Clean the bathroom? Never done. Sweep the floor? Never done. And when he finally does something, it's with an attitude. Then he'll ask, "What do you want me to do?" BRO, LOOK AROUND! 😭

There was even a point when I had to encourage him to shower regularly and take care of his hair because his dandruff was so bad. And he would actually get upset with me for bringing up his hygiene! Thankfully, he's much better about taking care of himself now, and I'm glad we've moved past that. But WHY did I have to go through that in the first place? Why did I have to remind a grown man to take care of himself?

And what's worse is how he speaks to me. I've noticed he's gentle and respectful toward other men, but with me, he'll curse, make disrespectful jokes, and speak to me anyhow. Like, sir, why do other men get your sweet, respectful side while I get the attitude? Who are you trying to impress? 😂

At this point, I've even found myself taking money from his piggy bank and joking that it's compensation for all my unpaid labor and stress. 😭 I know that's not a healthy way to deal with resentment, but that's where I'm at emotionally.

Honestly, I'm just exhausted. I don't want to feel like someone's mother. I want to feel like someone's girlfriend, someone's love, someone's person.

Lately, I've been daydreaming about falling in love again. I want that K-drama type of romance. 😂 A man who's genuinely smitten with me, who's thoughtful, affectionate, romantic, and excited to spend time with me. Someone who makes me feel beautiful, feminine, wanted, and appreciated.

I know real relationships aren't K-dramas, but is it too much to want deep romantic love? I miss the butterflies, flirting, dates, meaningful conversations, and the feeling of someone genuinely being interested in me.

I just want to be able to relax and be loved without feeling like I have to manage everything.

And the saddest part? I don't even know if I want him to change anymore. I'm just tired of having to ask for the bare minimum.

Has anyone else experienced this? Did you eventually fall back in love, or did you realize you were already emotionally checked out?

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A little sensitive over my mums grandparent name

I’m due in December with my first baby. My mum and I have a weird relationship, we do get along but we have very different views and can fall out. She’s said she wants to be known as ‘meema’, which I’m really not keen on. To me, it’s too similar to ‘mama’ and ‘mummy’, and as a first time mum, I don’t want that feeling of being called mama to be taken away. Am I just being too sensitive, or am I right to talk to her about it? The thing is she always calls me sensitive over stuff like this, but it’s important to me.

Why are so many parents against tv/screen time?

Me and all my 4 siblings were never “not allowed tv” we had access to it 24/7, we loved it…but we also loved playing together and playing outside. What is so terrible about watching tv?

As an adult who still spends time outside or playing with my kids, all I see is other adults staring at their phone, scrolling on social media…idk I’m just confused why there’s such a stigma around letting a child watch tv i guess.

All these influencers or mums on the playground I hear that say “no tv time for my kids” yet they spend all day everyday on their phone? If it’s damaging, why is there screens quite literally everywhere? Shouldn’t we try to do something about this?

Suggestions

Hey Mamas,

I have a month old baby, and lately, I’ve been struggling to manage everything on my own. My husband frequently wants to go to the gym or play badminton, leaving me responsible for feeding the baby, changing diapers, putting the baby to sleep, and handling most of the other daily responsibilities.

I completely understand that having personal time, hobbies, and staying active is important. However, I feel that with a baby at home, our priorities and routines need to change, at least for a while.

I’ve communicated my feelings to my husband multiple times and asked him to prioritize our baby and share the responsibilities with me. Unfortunately, I haven’t seen much change, and it’s becoming physically and emotionally exhausting to manage everything alone.

I don’t want to stop him from enjoying his hobbies, but I also need support, personal time, and an equal partner in parenting.

I’m genuinely looking for advice from other parents or couples who have experienced something similar. How did you find a balance? How can I help my husband understand my perspective, and are there things I should approach differently?

I’m open to any suggestions because I really want us to work through this together rather than letting it affect our relationship.

I’ve lost attraction to my husband

Like the title says, I’ve lost attraction to my husband. His mom is constantly buying him clothes and frankly I see my husband as less of a man and not an adult because of it. I find it rather gross that she is constantly buying him clothes when he has perfectly good clothes and a wife that can go buy some if needed

Drained

Hey guys I’m currently married and I strongly believe he’s a narcissist, I’m posting this to see if anyone has been in a similar situation. I have no job or car and no family. We have a 1yr old together . I don’t know how to leave

Toddler Tingz

Does anyone else let their 2yr old roam and eat?😂 luckily we have no carpet downstairs but sometimes it’s the only way he’ll eat a full meal 😆 *grab a tortellini, run a lap, come back grab a breadstick, do a pretend phone call* lmao