Currently 6 weeks pregnant
So i recently had a fling with this guy it was nothing serious because he didn’t want anything serious I respected it obviously we had relations and I asked him about the risk of getting pregnant he said he was young I also agreed yet everytime I would ask for money for a plan b he would refuse and just say he was low on funds or make an excuse I knew I didn’t want a baby so I brought it we only did it three times total because I was growing tired of him and his excuses sadly the last time I took it too late I didn’t find out til this Thursday when I was getting a std checking (I was getting serious with this guy and wanted to check my health ) and found out I was pregnant I’m 21 I was hurt I called him we hadn’t talked in 2 months but he follows me on socials media and reacts to my stuff when I called a girl picked up the phone I wasn’t on anything about being in a relationship and I reassured her yet she started calling me names and saying he’s not there I just told her straight up “I’m pregnant and it’s his baby can you just give him the phone “ the phone hangs up and he calls back I picked up and he starts cursing me out saying I’m upset his girl etc etc I just repeated I wanted money for an abortion in case my insurance doesn’t cover it he hung up and blocked me on everything I don’t really care for him but I’m hurt because now I’m stuck pregnant I don’t know which direction I want to go I also wanted to be a mom I just never felt I was gonna be ready nor did I think I’ll be in this situation I have support but I’m stuck on choosing what decision is best especially since the dad doesn’t want it everyone says don’t worry about that but I have a dad and he may not be the best but he is a good dad and now my baby won’t get to experience that what if down the line the baby starts asking about him and I have no answers but a picture of what he looks like and his name (not even his last ) I feel like I’ll disappoint them and I want to be the best mother there can be with all my might I just don’t know what to do
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How is the relationship getting serious if it was a fling
Just do your own thing. Forget him.
Honestly be open and honest with the guy you're currently seeing and if you still seek abortion maybe he can help. If you decide you want to do this though, having a baby I mean, do not involve that bum baby daddy, he is clearly too immature to be dealing with this.
First you said you wanted money for an abortion and then you say you want to be a mom and you have support. Seems like you don’t want an abortion and you wanted to twist his arm into making the “right” decision and either one be with you or two be there for you and this baby. Let this be a lesson that if a man can even help provide for protection, codons/ plan b. He’s not father material and the sex isn’t worth it. Also plan b is an horrible birth control plan. It’s not always effective and if you over weight by any means it’s basically useless. If you’re going to have sexual flings with people (which I have no judgement about. You’re young live your life) you need to responsibly about your health. Testing after having unprotected sex isn’t enough. Use protection seriously. I know brith controls aren’t an option for all women. My sister literally has negative reactions to almost everyone kind. You have so much life and experience to live.
Babies learn what you teach , they won't think anything about not having a father if you teach them later on when older he wasn't father material or he ran off etc. Mommy did her best to keep you safe. Just let them know some raise kids alone. Not everyone has mothers and fathers..When an adult they may do a DNA test but if your story is straight he did wanna be a dad. He can be the one to decide what's next as an adult
It’s a terrible situation to be in and I don’t want to be negative but based on what I just read you should either get an abortion or acknowledge that he’s not going to be a present father figure and raise the baby yourself or with your partner. Don’t expect him to have a change of heart, he will only come around when it’s convenient for him and that’s not what any child deserves to experience.
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So i recently had a fling with this guy it was nothing serious because he didn’t want anything serious I respected it obviously we had relations and I asked him about the risk of getting pregnant he said he was young I also agreed yet everytime I would ask for money for a plan b he would refuse and just say he was low on funds or make an excuse I knew I didn’t want a baby so I brought it we only did it three times total because I was growing tired of him and his excuses sadly the last time I took it too late I didn’t find out til this Thursday when I was getting a std checking (I was getting serious with this guy and wanted to check my health ) and found out I was pregnant I’m 21 I was hurt I called him we hadn’t talked in 2 months but he follows me on socials media and reacts to my stuff when I called a girl picked up the phone I wasn’t on anything about being in a relationship and I reassured her yet she started calling me names and saying he’s not there I just told her straight up “I’m pregnant and it’s his baby can you just give him the phone “ the phone hangs up and he calls back I picked up and he starts cursing me out saying I’m upset his girl etc etc I just repeated I wanted money for an abortion in case my insurance doesn’t cover it he hung up and blocked me on everything I don’t really care for him but I’m hurt because now I’m stuck pregnant I don’t know which direction I want to go I also wanted to be a mom I just never felt I was gonna be ready nor did I think I’ll be in this situation I have support but I’m stuck on choosing what decision is best especially since the dad doesn’t want it everyone says don’t worry about that but I have a dad and he may not be the best but he is a good dad and now my baby won’t get to experience that what if down the line the baby starts asking about him and I have no answers but a picture of what he looks like and his name (not even his last ) I feel like I’ll disappoint them and I want to be the best mother there can be with all my might I just don’t know what to do
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