Rant but also need some advice

I honestly don’t know what to do anymore I feel like I’m loosing my baby due to stress. Me and my partner have been extremely rocky since we first got together and now it feels even worse than ever we went on holiday for the weekend and all he did was put me down and make me cry he always tells me it’s my fault In any argument ( for abit of context we broke up back in may due to how he treated me during this time I met someone else and it wasn’t serious at all and made me realise how much j genuinely loved him and only wanted him and me being me went back to him in July then start of September found out that I’m pregnant with his baby. ) he now uses this break to have ago at me and put me down constantly I’m
Now breaking down almost every day and crying to the point where I don’t know if I can carry on. I don’t want to leave but at this point I don’t know what to do we are ment to be moving into our first home together next week but I’m so scared it’s going to get worse. The last thing i want is my baby to be brought up with there parents not together but then at the same time im so scared that hes not going to change how he is towards me and i dont want that around my baby.

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I would just prepare for having to start over that may happen one day at a time

Sending love.

The first trimester was the hardest for me. Even though we wanted to have a baby, getting pregnant our first try was shocking for both of us. We thought we would have had more time of being newlyweds and that just wasn’t our reality. We fought for weeks straight. About everything. Around 9 weeks we got into a really big fight and I ended up leaving to stay with my parents for two weeks.

Personally, I think we really needed a break from each other to just be able to process everything. And I think I needed that break because I was very worried that my stress was going to start affecting the baby.

Can you make an effort to get out of the house and see some friends? Do you have family nearby? This is the time where we need people the most. It didnt feel natural for me to reach out and ask for help but im glad i did.

Feel free to message me if you need to vent!

I mean, it’s no fun being with someone that puts you down all the time. Can you work on focusing on making you happy and not trying to make him happy? Focus on your mental health first and look at your day and what a healthy day would look Like if he was or wasn’t there... If he insults you, just say, sorry you feel that way, and move on with your day. You have a wonderful new bundle of joy coming and it’s time to take care of mom first. A happy mom makes a happy baby.

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5. I wouldn’t let him eat cat food

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3. I didn’t let him throw out the dirty diaper

2. I made him get dressed after his bath and he couldn’t run around naked

1. He drank his entire cup of lemonade and was mad at me because it was empty 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

Picture is from his nap on the couch ( he has made great use of my pregnancy pillow to nap with and yes I have to put the plushies around him or he won’t sleep. They have to be organized a certain way and god help me if we ever loose his Cookie Monster plushie ) I’m already planning on going back to sea world just to get 3 more in the Sesame Street area because I’m scared he’s going to loose it or somehow get it dirty and he will not nap or go to bed without it🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

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