Weaning
Is anyone else SO DONE with feeding their baby. The mental load, the prep, the MESS, all for baby to have a couple of teaspoons. It’s honestly driving me crazy!
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Yup.....I HATE the weaning phase🫠
Honestly if she eats as much as the effort i put in I’ll not mind the mess
But come onnnn so much mess for a tiny try 😩😩😩😩
I hate hate hate hate weaning. Did with my first as well. The constant thinking about what to cook, cooking and cleaning up for them to have one spoonful. Also the constant worry of if they have had enough, choking etc. It gets so much easier at around 1 once they’re just eating more like you. I hate all the Instagram photos of what people have cooked because it’s 10 times what either of mine have had and makes me feel guilty. My 2.5 year old just eats like we do and it’s so much easier so hang in there. I did so many concoctions of things for my first and I just don’t have the time this time around so I try to give him what we’re having when possible, have done jars and he’s even quite partial to a fish finger..
i can’t stand the mess and hate weaning, but i do very minimal prep. we have omelette most days for breakfast which i force myself to make so i feel healthy too, otherwise he has toast, fruit, cucumber, etc for lunch, and then i cook an evening meal with something he can have too… sometimes have to get the hand blender out but i try not to! 😂 we plan all our meals when we go food shopping, so i always know what i’m going to be offering him. my 2.5yo is a terrible eater and i put so much more effort into BLW with him, so now i literally just give baby what we have in age appropriate sizes. still get stressed about choking, but i know that fear will lessen as they get older
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What the fuck is going on?..
My daughter is almost 4 months old and every day is getting really hard, she went from being happy and smiling a lot to being grumpy and screaming for no reason. Her feeding is all over the place and she refuses to nap - will only sleep when she’s so tired she just drops off..
Trying to settle her is becoming so difficult no matter what I try, she just seems whingey all the time and I can’t keep her happy for long. All I want to do is help and I don’t know how.
Has this happened to anyone else? Is it just a phase? How long will this last? What can I do to help?
*shes not teething
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Valid reason to question nursery staff?
Hello, I’m just wondering how other mums would react to this.
I picked our son up from nursery today and was greeted by his key person who told me he had a great day and told me what he had been up to, I then spoke to the nursery manager very briefly, pretty much just small talk. After speaking to those two, probably about 20 minutes in total, I walked to another part of the nursery to get our sons shoes & bag and bumped into another nursery worker who we rarely get updates from and it was only then that I was informed that our son had fallen on his face and that’s why his faced was bruised (I had assumed the bruise was his cheek flushing due to him being out in the cold). I was a bit taken back that I found out so casually and just by chance so I basically just said I’m glad he was okay & that he took it well (she had mentioned he was only down for a short time before he was back up & playing).
My biggest issue with this is that if it wasn’t for me bumping into this other nursery worker, we wouldn’t have known that he had a fall. This is also the fourth time he’s had a mark left from an injury at nursery and I know these things happen, but surely we should be getting updated about what accidents he’s had during the day?
We don’t want to overreact but we do feel like saying something tomorrow at drop off as it’s just not sitting right with us.
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Am I overreacting?
I had the worst day with my 3m old. She literally cried non-stop and was super fussy, she’s had a tummy bug today so that’s probably why. My partner came home we had a tiny bicker but it resolved itself in like 2 minutes. She was then fussy and only wanted me till he did the bed time routine. I asked him if we could watch something even just an episode before we go to bed because I know he has work so doesn’t want to go to bed too late. He responded “no I’m gonna read”. I said “please I had the worst day and my anxiety is through the roof, I keep feeling anxious every time she’s sick” (FTM btw). He said if you’re anxious you can talk to other people or if you’re that stressed call the GP. While I know they are valid options and suggestions, it just felt so dismissive.
I really have struggled with anxiety all my life, especially as a child, rocky childhood etc and I feel like it’s elevated with having a baby (I’m always at home with her during the week alone). I’m going to bring it up to my GP at my next appointment, but I do feel so neglected by the situation with my partner. He is doing what he wants meanwhile I haven’t had a single interaction with a human that speaks back to me all day.
I just left him to put the little one to sleep but inside I feel so hurt and pretty isolated. I’m not sure if I’m just being overly sensitive but it sucks.
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Schools
Would you ladies tell me if you think private Christian schools are better or worse compared to public school systems?
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How do you handle an overbearing MIL who can be kind but comments on everything?
My husband and I live in a four-bedroom house: our bedroom, his home office, the nursery, and a guest room. Our son is five months old, and I use the guest room to nurse him and sometimes sleep with him. My husband often works from our bed, taking calls or playing videos, and I prefer peace, quiet, and privacy while nursing.
I recently finished a really exhausting triple-feeding journey and have transitioned to almost exclusively breastfeeding. My baby still wakes at night, and this arrangement has helped me get more sleep and manage his feeds. Right now, protecting that progress is really important to me.
My MIL has been pressuring me to put him back in his crib and return to sleeping in the same room as my husband. Meanwhile, she keeps saying she wants to visit and doesn’t want to stay in a hotel. I feel like I’m being pushed to give up a space I’m using to care for my baby so she can stay over.
It’s also part of a bigger pattern. She comments on everything, from our pets to how she thinks I should give my baby more formula. I’m a stay-at-home mom and financially dependent on my husband right now, but I still want our parenting and household decisions to be respected.
When I decided to try daycare for a few hours, a few days a week, so I could go to the dentist, get my car serviced, and handle basic errands, she mentioned that her cleaning lady’s daughter sends her children to daycare. Maybe she meant it casually, but in context, it felt like a classist dig.
She also made comments about body odor while I was postpartum and breastfeeding, despite me showering daily. She suggested antibacterial soap and then bought us some. That felt embarrassing and intrusive at an already vulnerable time.
She can be generous, but the constant opinions and pressure are wearing me down. Am I being unreasonable for wanting her to stay in a hotel if we’re using the guest room? How would you set boundaries around visits and unsolicited comments without turning it into a huge conflict?
My husband is also very close with her and shares things I consider private. He told her about how I was stitched incorrectly after giving birth, along with other medical issues I’m not comfortable discussing with anyone. He even told her that I’d asked him for a push present. I feel extremely exposed, judged, and scrutinized, as though nothing in my life or marriage stays between us. Sometimes I wonder whether she’s trying to protect him from being taken advantage of, but I don’t know her intentions. What I do know is that I’m not comfortable with this level of intrusion, and I need my husband to respect my privacy.
My MIL has been pressuring me to put him back in his crib and return to sleeping in the same room as my husband. At the same time, she keeps saying she wants to visit but does not want to stay in a hotel. I feel as though I’m being expected to give up a space I’m using to care for my baby so she can stay overnight.
The larger issue is that my husband is not setting a clear limit with her. I am not comfortable hosting overnight visits right now, and even extended daytime visits are difficult because they disrupt our routine and leave me responsible for hosting while I’m caring for a five-month-old. I would be comfortable with visits for a few hours, but I need my husband to communicate and enforce that boundary rather than leaving me to negotiate with his mother.
There is also a pattern of unsolicited comments about our pets, feeding decisions, daycare, and my postpartum body. I understand that she may be lonely after losing her husband and that she is dealing with depression, but her circumstances do not make me responsible for providing overnight accommodations or accepting criticism. I want to be compassionate without allowing her needs to determine how we use our home or care for our baby.
Finances make the boundary problem more complicated. I’m a stay-at-home mom and financially dependent on my husband. He earns an income but asks me to go through his mother for large purchases and medical bills, citing a tax advantage. That means I’m expected to ask her for financial help while also trying to establish limits with her. It makes me feel as though her financial support gives her a role in decisions that should belong to my husband and me.
I need my husband to take responsibility for both parts of this problem: setting a firm limit that overnight visits are not available right now, and creating a financial arrangement that does not require me to depend directly on his mother or seek her approval. If her assistance is genuinely necessary, I think the terms should be clear, transparent, and agreed upon by both of us - not handled through private requests that make me feel indebted and undermine my ability to set boundaries.
I want my husband and me to make decisions about our home, our baby, visits, and finances together. His mother may be generous and may need support, but he is the person who needs to set limits with her. I should not have to choose between accepting financial help and tolerating pressure in my own home.
How would you handle this? How do I get my husband to take the lead in setting clear limits on visits and restructure the financial arrangement without turning it into a larger family conflict?
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Weaning
Is anyone else SO DONE with feeding their baby. The mental load, the prep, the MESS, all for baby to have a couple of teaspoons. It’s honestly driving me crazy!
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