Can’t force intimacy…

I feel like I’ve slightly checked out of my relationship. We have a two year old and a 5 month old. We have had some issues in our relationship and my partner has mentioned a few times how he is desperate for affection and attention and jokes about seeking it else where but it quickly becomes serious. This plus many other issues have pushed me away. I’m breastfeeding and don’t have much interest in sex or even kissing. When he touches me my whole body tenses up and he keeps pushing me further away. I feel bad for him but it’s also a result of how he has treated me. I’ve been thinking recently how we just are not aligned. I want to go out and do nice family things together but he doesn’t want too and is just not a fun person. Like I am a very lively happy go lucky person and he has turned me into a quiet girl that never sees friends etc. I feel like we are on different waves and just holding onto hope😩

So basically the way he has treated me along with his personality traits got me confused. Any advice or words of love would be greatly appreciated ☹️♥️

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What the fuck is going on?..

My daughter is almost 4 months old and every day is getting really hard, she went from being happy and smiling a lot to being grumpy and screaming for no reason. Her feeding is all over the place and she refuses to nap - will only sleep when she’s so tired she just drops off..

Trying to settle her is becoming so difficult no matter what I try, she just seems whingey all the time and I can’t keep her happy for long. All I want to do is help and I don’t know how.

Has this happened to anyone else? Is it just a phase? How long will this last? What can I do to help?

*shes not teething

Valid reason to question nursery staff?

Hello, I’m just wondering how other mums would react to this.

I picked our son up from nursery today and was greeted by his key person who told me he had a great day and told me what he had been up to, I then spoke to the nursery manager very briefly, pretty much just small talk. After speaking to those two, probably about 20 minutes in total, I walked to another part of the nursery to get our sons shoes & bag and bumped into another nursery worker who we rarely get updates from and it was only then that I was informed that our son had fallen on his face and that’s why his faced was bruised (I had assumed the bruise was his cheek flushing due to him being out in the cold). I was a bit taken back that I found out so casually and just by chance so I basically just said I’m glad he was okay & that he took it well (she had mentioned he was only down for a short time before he was back up & playing).

My biggest issue with this is that if it wasn’t for me bumping into this other nursery worker, we wouldn’t have known that he had a fall. This is also the fourth time he’s had a mark left from an injury at nursery and I know these things happen, but surely we should be getting updated about what accidents he’s had during the day?

We don’t want to overreact but we do feel like saying something tomorrow at drop off as it’s just not sitting right with us.

Am I a bad Mom if I don't like staying with my children?

I have two children, one who is 3 and a half and one who is 6 months old. We just moved out of state, and before the move, I was working full-time while both kids were in daycare. I wanted to stay home with them and go to school, and I had this picture in my head of doing activities, teaching them things, and enjoying this time with a few hard days mixed in.

That has not been my reality.

My 3-year-old will not stop asking me for things. I go from one need to the next all day long, and I haven’t even had a chance to unpack. I barely have time to make myself food or get enough sleep. My 3-year-old has decided he doesn’t need naps anymore, and then he’ll intentionally wake up my 6-month-old just because he wants to. His behavior has been awful lately, and he doesn’t listen, even when it’s something important, like not running up and down the stairs. He questions everything, and I’ve gotten to the point where I’m yelling more than I want to.

I’m struggling. I’ve looked into daycare at least once a week because I’m so overwhelmed, but I genuinely want to make staying home work. I’m just so unhappy right now, and I feel like I’m failing at something I really wanted.

Does anyone have any advice? Has anyone been through something similar and found a way to make it work?

Montessori school experiences???

The child-centered, community and psychological preschool model is appealing, but the cost is $2400/month. Any feedback?

Has anyone dealt with divorce and custody disagreements while 4 months pp?

My husband has said he wants a divorce and my daughter and I have uprooted our life and are starting all the way over. He was abusive and mostly never physical but he did bruise our daughter. Do things ever get easier? I’m so sad about my marriage and also so overwhelmed starting over by myself. I’m in school. I was a SAHM so I have no income and now am job hunting. I need some words of encouragement and maybe if anyone else can relate🫶

Am I overreacting?

I had the worst day with my 3m old. She literally cried non-stop and was super fussy, she’s had a tummy bug today so that’s probably why. My partner came home we had a tiny bicker but it resolved itself in like 2 minutes. She was then fussy and only wanted me till he did the bed time routine. I asked him if we could watch something even just an episode before we go to bed because I know he has work so doesn’t want to go to bed too late. He responded “no I’m gonna read”. I said “please I had the worst day and my anxiety is through the roof, I keep feeling anxious every time she’s sick” (FTM btw). He said if you’re anxious you can talk to other people or if you’re that stressed call the GP. While I know they are valid options and suggestions, it just felt so dismissive.

I really have struggled with anxiety all my life, especially as a child, rocky childhood etc and I feel like it’s elevated with having a baby (I’m always at home with her during the week alone). I’m going to bring it up to my GP at my next appointment, but I do feel so neglected by the situation with my partner. He is doing what he wants meanwhile I haven’t had a single interaction with a human that speaks back to me all day.

I just left him to put the little one to sleep but inside I feel so hurt and pretty isolated. I’m not sure if I’m just being overly sensitive but it sucks.