What should I do?

Firstly, I’m sorry. I’ve been here a few times and it never gets easier.

Have you given birth before? Do you know how big baby is? If baby is measuring more than 8 weeks or if this is your first, I would do the D&C. My first loss was 8.5 weeks big (I was 13.5 weeks along) and it was painful. Contractions. Etc. Seeing baby with black eyes, 10 fingers and toes also broke me.

Miscarrying at home when baby is 6 weeks in size was much easier.

The other thing to consider would be if you wanted to try right away or wait. I believe you need to wait longer after a D&C but I could be wrong. I always miscarried before I got a surgery date.

If you wait naturally, it could take 4-6 weeks. Depending on your body, hormones, etc. I was told natural is always preferred as it usually gets rid of all tissues the first time. But they also don’t want baby hanging in there for too long and causing infection, etc.

In my past miscarriages I’ve waited for the same reasons you said. I found I tend to start bleeding like a period for about a day before the worst of it starts so I just wear a pad and then when it starts I know I might need to take the next day off (highly recommend taking a few days off if you can) that being said I have no idea if that’s how it will go for you. I used misoprostol once when I had retained products and had been bleeding for 7 weeks. The misoprostol itself didn’t cause much discomfort at all. I almost thought it didn’t do anything but it must have finally gotten the last bit out because I finally stopped bleeding a couple days later. So maybe it’s the miscarriage itself that’s painful. I’d try it again