Feeling down sad and guilty
I have a 2 year old and a one month year old. My two year old has become so distant from me it’s breaking my heart as he was so clingy and so attached to me. Through out pregnancy and since the day he was born he has done everything with me. I’ve struggled getting him to eat with anyone, fall asleep with anyone not even his dad. Recently my mother inlaw has been taking him to stay at hers and she been taking him out a lot. As grateful as I am for this it has made me feel so down as he does not want to come back home he been crying and will run to her. I’ve balled my eyes out many times feeling like I’ve lost my boy. I’m currently at my mother’s house as my stitches are opened from my surgery and I need help. My lil one’s been with his dad and although I’ve constantly said please bring him here after nursery I want to go spend time with him I’ve felt like it’s never been done. I just feel like my little one is very different towards me and won’t even come to me I feel awful I can not explain it’s making me so depressed and sad !
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Really similar but we are just at week 6 and it's getting better. Baby is settling with dad a little and we are having some one on one time and that's making his behaviour better and i just try and tell him I love him and ask for cuddles or to hold my hand.
As hard as it feels at the moment, it is very temporary and it will pass. It is very normal for toddlers to drift to other people in the first couple of months but they always come back, don't worry. My boy is all about his dad at the moment but I'm sure we will rebuild our bond as soon as I'm out of newborn trenches
Its so hard but its just a phase, mine is 3 at Christmas and 6 weeks, mine has become besties with her Daddy, he does every nursery drop off and bath and bedtime almost every night because Im feeding the baby. Im grateful for it because we are so lucky to have other secure people for them to be attached to! Some people are all alone just them the mother and it must be SO hard, so I just try and see it as a positive and I know from friends she will come back to me in time when the baby doesnt need me as much! I dont have memories of this time period with my siblings so I know she wont either!!! They will just remember the feeling of being loved
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Last night, whilst my daughter was having her bath, she said 'mummy & daddy don't play with me...' to herself but I was in there with her & her dad was downstairs & heard her say it.
It made me incredibly sad as we do play with her - especially her dad.
I will hold my hands up & say that I'm terrible for using my phone when in her presence - especially after a long day at work where I just want to disassociate 🫣😫 but I do put it down when she wants my attention (her dad is guilty of this too).
I'm just worried that I've created a core memory for her that 'mum's always on her phone' 😫😭
I've asked Chat gpt for some activities I can do once she's back from nursery & I'm back from work & starting today, I'm leaving my phone upstairs whilst we do some of those activities together cuz I never wanna hear her sound so sad again 🥹
Anyone else been in a similar situation?
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I just need to vent here
I honestly need to vent because I'm mentally and emotionally exhausted. 💔
I'm a mom trying to rebuild my life, and I feel like I can't even get a moment of peace. My daughter's father constantly comes to me with his problems, expects me to help him financially, and now wants me to help pay his rent. When I don't, he makes me feel guilty, as if I'm responsible for the position he's in.
What makes this situation even harder is that I'm struggling myself. I'm trying to get on my feet, provide for my daughter, figure out my living situation, and keep pushing forward despite everything I've been through. I'm not in a position where I can just take on someone else's financial responsibilities. I'm trying to survive and rebuild my own life.
But somehow, I'm made to feel like the bad person for saying no.
And it's not just the guilt. He constantly threatens me, too. It's emotionally draining to feel pressured to help someone while also being afraid of how they might react when you don't. I'm trying to move forward from this relationship, but it feels like I can't get free from the emotional pressure, the guilt, and the fear.
Sometimes I ask myself, how did I get here? Why do I feel responsible for someone else's decisions when I'm already carrying so much on my own? I know I need boundaries, but it's hard when the person putting you through this is your child's father.
I don't want to live in survival mode anymore. I want peace. I want to focus on my daughter, rebuild my life, and stop feeling like I have to save someone else at the expense of myself.
Has anyone else experienced this with their child's father? How did you deal with the guilt, the threats, and the feeling that you're still trapped in a situation you desperately want to move on from?
I'm not looking for judgment. I'm genuinely looking for advice and support from moms who have been through something similar. I just want to know I'm not alone. 🤍
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Feeling down sad and guilty
I have a 2 year old and a one month year old. My two year old has become so distant from me it’s breaking my heart as he was so clingy and so attached to me. Through out pregnancy and since the day he was born he has done everything with me. I’ve struggled getting him to eat with anyone, fall asleep with anyone not even his dad. Recently my mother inlaw has been taking him to stay at hers and she been taking him out a lot. As grateful as I am for this it has made me feel so down as he does not want to come back home he been crying and will run to her. I’ve balled my eyes out many times feeling like I’ve lost my boy. I’m currently at my mother’s house as my stitches are opened from my surgery and I need help. My lil one’s been with his dad and although I’ve constantly said please bring him here after nursery I want to go spend time with him I’ve felt like it’s never been done. I just feel like my little one is very different towards me and won’t even come to me I feel awful I can not explain it’s making me so depressed and sad !
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