What’s everyone’s opinions with partners not helping in the night because they’re working?

First of all looking after a baby IS WORK! 24/7 backbreaking work! I hope you told him off when he said that.
I can’t speak for everyone but my husband comes home at 6 pm. 6 pm to 8 pm is my baby free time but I will still be tidying up and eating dinner etc. During that time he plays with her, gives her wash and does the bedtime routine, I breastfeed her for the night then baby sleeps between 8 and 9 pm. When baby wakes up the first time usually at midnight my husband feeds her with a bottle. Then she wakes up around 2 am and 3 am and I take over from there. If my husband has meetings at work or he is going through a super busy time then I take care of baby the whole night.
During the weekends, I do the feedings and my husband does the diaper changes, putting baby to sleep and cooking.

You need to stop asking and explaining since it’s not working. Just sit down and list the roles he is supposed to start taking. Also he is not supposed to “help” , its his child too.

I have always done all the nights as my partner works and although i agree that being a mum is a 24/7 job , i do understand that if we’ve had a bad night, we can choose to have a quieter day at home, if we have nothing on, while i’m on mat leave, whereas he does not have that choice.
I went through triple feeding with my boy when he was a newborn and remember it being so difficult. There are lots of helplines you can ring if you need someone to chat to or wanting some advice. It got easier for me and i hope it will for you too

We also struggled with weight and had to triple feed when my little girl was a newborn. My partner also works but has always done the nappy change in the night. During the triple feeds, he would sometimes give the bottle - not always but if i was extra tired he would. Regarding your partner finishing work, the ideal thing would be for him to come home and give you a break for 1-2 hours so you could maybe catch up on some sleep or literally just do nothing and have you time. I know you have probably done all this anyway but try and speak to him about parenting is needed from both of you, you are both dealing with completely different ends of the spectrum- he is working but you are keeping a tiny human alive 24/7 and arguably that is much harder work!! I hope that you can come to an agreement that helps you🤞. Always here for a chat as well if you need

I think it’s absolutely pathetic. Why he thinks his life doesn’t have to change is beyond me. Of course he should help. I had a similar sounding baby and if my partner had done this I would’ve had a breakdown. Please don’t just wait for this to get easier, something needs to change.

I do all the nights as my partner works shift and I breast feed but when he has days off he does 80% of nappy’s and he will clean. He also wakes up at 5 then does a 12 hour shift then comes home walks the dog and sometimes makes tea if I’m feeding it’s just what works for us

With my little one we worked as a team, my hubby works long hours running his company and has a very manual job. But when he was home he always worked as a team. Looking after a baby is also a full time job as well. It was hard on both of us but I never felt along. Baby no.2 is due in Dec and I’m confident my hubby will be with me to help/support as much as he can. This time we do have a next to me cot so I’m hoping to do more through the night on my own and let hubby sleep (last time was a 70 hour labour/emergency c section so I needed lots of help) he then usually gets up with lil one and goes for a dog walk so I can get a lil bit on duty proper sleep. I have told him he is on night time nappy duty tho! X