Frustrated mama

I would try reaching out to your pediatrician if you have not done so already. You can share your concerns with them, and if you feel your son's behaviors fall outside of the typical range, they can write a referral for you for early intervention services. Typically, they can connect you with an occupational therapist if needed. You might be able to reach out to early intervention directly as a resource, I am not sure. They are great at providing community and support. They can also do evaluations where I am. There are also OT's who work at private practices, and sometimes sessions are covered by your insurance. Good luck! You are strong, you've got this!

I'll add, something that has been helping my son is knowing what is coming up next. Transitions can be tricky. I try to front load for him when I can, "first we will___, then we will___." Then he isn't panicked and what is going to happen. Visual timers also help with moving on. Sometimes I show him a picture on my phone of what we are going to do next.

They would be too young to be diagnosed with adhd. I would avoid all screen times with the evidence that is out there with making symptoms of adhd worse. What's my baby thinking book is really useful. Is there any patterns to the tantrums? For example is it when changing from different tasks so from play time to going home? Or supermarkets? As there are strategies around it depending on the problems. Also it could be something emotionally like if they have a younger siblings and they are having more tantrums because they don't want to share your attention.