Nursery settle in
My little boy starts nursery on the 9th November (the day after his 1st birthday.. bad mum š) and heās currently had 5 settle in sessions, the first one was only a half hour and we stayed in the room then the next was 1hr which I left him and they said he was good, played with other kids etc. the other 3 have been 1.5-2hr sessions and heās just distraught when I drop him off. I know the girls who work there are absolutely lovely so I know heās in good hands but heās just not having a great time and itās making me feel absolutely horrendous.
Today I only walked into the room to drop him off and he was screaming, I came in to pick him up and he was also crying. Please tell me it gets easier or if anyone else is experiencing this cause I donāt know if Iām doing the right thing
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So sorry youre having this experience, its really shit!
My first born started nursery at 14 months old, due to personal situations hed never been looked after by anyone other than me fir thos 14 months.
He had to start with no settle sessions due to catching a bug on his 30min paperwork session š
He screamed every drop off for weeks, but now he loves it! And while it felt like forever when we were in it, it really was just a passing moment š
My Nov 2025 baby is getting 2 weeks of settling in, but I am once again dreading it. The guilt never leaves, even now my toddler enjoys it xx
I have a fellow 8th November baby š„°
My little girl was the same for the first 2-3 weeks but now really enjoys it. Its easier to start them at this age. My first didn't start until he was 2.5y and every drop off was awful! Eventually he was fine once he got in but it was such a battle to get him in. I used to cry on the way to work everytime! He was so much more aware. Baby's definitely adjust quicker. I'm hopeful that yours will too xx
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I even told him he doesnāt need to do anything at home like laundry, cooking, cleaning because I understand thatās my duty at home. Maybe Iām the one whoās wrong idk.
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For context I am a fully qualified early years teacher and I am more than competent in teaching and looking after my daughter.
We recently got a confirmation that our daughter can start nursery in 2028. (She will be 2) however Iāve realised Iām not comfortable with this (history of working in nurseryās and knowing what happens behind the scenes) and also I can simply do it all myself and I am happy to.
My husband tells me that he wants her to start nursery then and not stay home and let me care for her because she needs to go to nursery. I donāt understand why he would rather send her to be cared for by random people when Iām a stay at home mum and qualified to do it myself.
I also donāt really see how he gets much of a say in it (outside of just a general opinion) as it doesnāt affect him at all whether she is home with me or at nursery as Iāll be doing it all anyway? And he will be saving money if she doesnāt goā¦
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