Am I in the wrong?
So BD and I were just talking and the question of when did I lose my virginity came up. I did not feel comfortable answering him. So I told him. The reason behind this is when he knows something about my past he uses it against me later on during arguments. I said this to him. He said he wouldnt. I still dont trust him because hes done this many times. Mind you ive been with him 4 years. Ive never asked abt his past hes never asked much about mine. I honestly think if it happened before me its not something I NEEEEED to know unless he wants to share. Dont get me wrong I want to know about him and what made him who he is today. But intimicy is just… idk. Honestly Im not proud of the age I lost mine. But mostly its just me not wanting this brought up later on being the reason why I dont want to tell him. Anyway aftwr I said I didnt feel comfortable and kept saying I wouldnt tell. He kind of gave me an ultimatum saying he didnt want to be w me if I keep secrets. I responded by saying well I dont want to be w you if youre not going to respect my boundaries and youre going to call it quits over this. Everntually we said well talk about it after work. Am I wrong? Should I just tell him? Or what should I do or say?
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When did he lose his ? I’d just make a list of all his ex gf for reference if need be , I kept one of my ex co workers phone numbers and I found out a year after we had a baby he was secretly trying to date her at work while I was at his house taking care of his child.
Ive always been completely honest and open to my husband and hes been the same...
I think before telling him anything you have to work on why he makes you uncomfortable first, he shouldnt be pressuring you to say anything but you also shouldnt have someone as your SO that you feel you cant be open to in fear that itll be thrown back at you later down the line x
You’re not wrong. I wouldn’t tell him either
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