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Hi, I just need peoples opinions on my situation.
I’m currently pregnant with my second baby, I’m a young mum and had my first girl very very young. We both wanted to have kids close in age so we decided to get pregnant again with our second.
Me and my partner have our own house, we pay for everything our self’s ( he does I don’t work, I’ve never been given the opportunity to work due to falling pregnant so young).
We do get universal credit till I can work or find a job I have tried but because im pregnant I have been turned away due to not being able to stay very long at a job.
The universal credit & child benefit both go into my partners account. I literally get no money into my account. He says this is better because all the bills go out his account he also works as well and gets all the benefit money…
We have a joint account but apparently it’s too hard to switch over all the bills, and when I do ask for money or want something I have to let him know what it’s for I can’t spend money without him asking what it went on!
I also feel so terrible for asking for money I never ask for money for myself at all it’s always for my daughter and to get the baby I’m pregnant with things. I don’t mind that I love buying things for my kids but I have to ask him in shops if I can get this and that it’s so awkward. For his Christmas presents I’m literally selling some of my daughters old clothes and my own to be able to get him things.
If I do want something I have to pay on klarna then scrape the money each month to pay it off. ( I always manage to pay it off but I worry about it and struggle all the time).
I’ve genuinely resorted to selling things on vinted because I have nothing 😅 I feel so useless I want a job so badly but I’ve got a 11 month old baby and I’m over half way pregnant I’m really stuck on what to do financially. I really sound so pathetic but I want my own money to be able to have the financial freedom.
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I’m confused as to why child benefit goes into his account, do he use this for your child? Cos the point of child benefit is to help get the essentials and everything else baby needs x
This sounds like financial abuse to me. You should be able to get access to at least half the money you get for your kids, if not all of it. Please protect yourself if you can x
Where in Wales are you? Are you able to go to a citizens advice drop in session while he’s at work? This is financial abuse and they can help to sort the benefits out and refer you to other services that can help with your situation xx
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Hi, I just need peoples opinions on my situation.
I’m currently pregnant with my second baby, I’m a young mum and had my first girl very very young. We both wanted to have kids close in age so we decided to get pregnant again with our second.
Me and my partner have our own house, we pay for everything our self’s ( he does I don’t work, I’ve never been given the opportunity to work due to falling pregnant so young).
We do get universal credit till I can work or find a job I have tried but because im pregnant I have been turned away due to not being able to stay very long at a job.
The universal credit & child benefit both go into my partners account. I literally get no money into my account. He says this is better because all the bills go out his account he also works as well and gets all the benefit money…
We have a joint account but apparently it’s too hard to switch over all the bills, and when I do ask for money or want something I have to let him know what it’s for I can’t spend money without him asking what it went on!
I also feel so terrible for asking for money I never ask for money for myself at all it’s always for my daughter and to get the baby I’m pregnant with things. I don’t mind that I love buying things for my kids but I have to ask him in shops if I can get this and that it’s so awkward. For his Christmas presents I’m literally selling some of my daughters old clothes and my own to be able to get him things.
If I do want something I have to pay on klarna then scrape the money each month to pay it off. ( I always manage to pay it off but I worry about it and struggle all the time).
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