Obsession over naps and schedules

Same 100% 🫣🫡 my life now revolves around her schedule. I know its unsustainable but shes so happy.

I totally understand that it can be easier to stay home and keep routine, because when we go out routine goes out the window, but id perhaps just try and have a loose routine. So if your going out plan the car journey or walk there for one of her naps and perhaps the car journey / pram walk back for another one. If she refuses to nap perhaps try rocking/ walking with her instead of in the pram.
I’d also maybe look into a snoozeshade if she’s too busy looking as this just blocks the outside world out and might help her doze off (if you put white noise on too) x

I honestly respect my LO’s schedule so much because I’m scared of him but that doesn’t keep me from doing things. If I have to go out I pick the time he’s just woken up from his nap so I know I have time to change him and get him ready to go out before his next nap. Then he sleeps when we’re outside. Or if I have to do things in the house I do them while he’s awake playing (usually about 20min) or when he goes to sleep at night. If I mess up with his sleep we’re cooked so I just work around his schedule

I really get how you feel about this - it’s so tough. I try and do some days during the week where I stay in more and focus on naps and feeding and keeping my baby’s mood as good as I can, and a few days a week where I plan fun things out and just (to an extent) let it go. TBH Ive realised I enjoy those days where I let it go more, even if my baby is a bit moody or doesn’t sleep as well on the night. Really focussing on how I feel at the end of the day and whether I’ve enjoyed the day has helped me get some perspective. But even second time round I struggle with it!