Feeling like a mum
Hi! I’m a first time mum, my little boy is 8 weeks and he’s brilliant. He was planned and wanted from the get go. I love him so much and we’re building a great relationship but I feel like we are best friends as opposed to me being a mum to him. I don’t know if I’m partially struggling with a change in identity. I’m 35, always worked a demanding job, managed to do most of the things I’d wanted to do in life by this point, I’ve been very lucky.. I’ve always known who I am, I’ve never struggled with my identity before. now life is slower, more simplistic and I find myself trying to figure out who I am now. Sorry to go in to detail but I just wondered if anyone else has had similar feelings? Hoping I’m not the only one in this boat x
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You’re only 8 weeks into being a new version of you and that’s ok! It takes a while to work out who we are after having a child and you’ll get there. Don’t worry too much about it, it’s perfectly normal. I’m six weeks pp with my second and trying to work out who I am again.
I can definitely relate to this! I'm also 35 and the identity change is just weird, I love this little human so much but I cannot believe I'm his mum. I'm sure things will settle going forward, it's very early days still x
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