Did you regret putting your baby into nursery?

I'm really in two minds about sending my boy to nursery or being a SAHM.
He will be 1 in December and I'm due to go back in January, I haven't left him with anyone & he only settles with me not even dad. Dad is self employed & is in and out of the house. I strive of routine and have one for me and my baby, my husband on the other end will just walk in and out of the house as he pleases.
He said that he would prefer me to stay at home and look after baby, which i know is hard work with no help but of course I love spending time with my baby. I am anxious about leaving him in someone else's care and whether he's still so little for it. On the other hand I also feel like I need routine and to get out the house for my mental wellbeing but don't want to be selfish and have that as a reason to return to work. We live with my in-laws and they're lovely but I'm getting tired of living with them and feel like if I don't return to work I'll be here for another year 24/7 and be miserable and not be fully present for baby. Part of me also craves to be financially independent, I don't like asking for money and this whole time whilst on mat leave my husband hasn't given me money (he buys stuff when we're out) but has never asked me if I need anything so it doesn't give me confidence being a SAHM that he will do so and I will hate having to ask for it constantly..

BUT a part of me feels selfish for this as I still think baby is so little and needs me as much as I need him!

I really don't know what to do! Have you regretted putting baby into nursery? Any positive or negative stories or advice please :)

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How do I deal with this

So my parents have been looking after my cat for the last three days, I have travelled with my husband because he had a job away and I didn't want to be left alone with a four month old baby, who's teething and screaming before bed most nights, I need the support. My mum at first couldn't understand why I would go and thought I would be better at home, I explained that I can cope with the days but the nights are difficult, I know I got my parents and his parents but I somehow just want my husband. I went, anyway my neighbour is on holiday and I had to ask my parents.
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But I also thought was okay to let a baby sleep 4-5 hours… anyway? Am I wrong again? Please give me advice x

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