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How do I deal with this

So my parents have been looking after my cat for the last three days, I have travelled with my husband because he had a job away and I didn't want to be left alone with a four month old baby, who's teething and screaming before bed most nights, I need the support. My mum at first couldn't understand why I would go and thought I would be better at home, I explained that I can cope with the days but the nights are difficult, I know I got my parents and his parents but I somehow just want my husband. I went, anyway my neighbour is on holiday and I had to ask my parents.
My parents can be quite brutal with their opinions, especially with how messy I can be, I have got better since marriage but has to suddenly empty a room for our baby's nursery sooner than we expected, our baby was born five weeks early, which we didn't expect and I spent nearly two weeks in hospital, I was thrown in the deep end as I never managed to get to classes or sort the house out before the baby's arrival, I was about to start my last week of work and have a week holiday then go on maternity leave two weeks before the birth, none of this happened. Well the family bathroom is now a tip and a dumpling ground for anything and everything, I am trying to sort it but I am also got to care for the baby, my husband's job has got busier, longer days, more nights away and weekend jobs, that leaves with the baby more. I am also on the waiting list for therapy because of how difficult it was for me with everything surrounding the baby's birth, I think PTSD was thrown around by the therapist.
Well back to the story, I had to ask my dad to feed our cat, last night my mum texted me saying we both have different ideas for cleaning, I fired off an angry text saying that wasn't fair with everything I had been through. Well I had to ring her to check something and my dad was on the phone criticizing me for the state of the house especially the bathroom, saying he would help by getting a black bag to it all, I got my personal possessions on there that I need to sort out, I lost a room when my husband began the nursery, my husband heard and is now fuming, my parents can judge and won't listen to anything we say, they think I am lazy but I am struggling with my mental health and have a baby, my husband said he had no right to go upstairs on the first place, I now fed up and won't be asking my dad again, we are probably going to have a no visitor policy now and I am scared of what my husband will say to my dad when he sees him and I feel my dad stepped over the line. I am doing the room but it's taking longer because my husband says he would help but his work is getting on the way, I don't want to lose my marriage because of this, help