Partner/money advice
Hi everyone,
I want to put this out there to see what other mums think and whether or not I’m being mean to have these thoughts. Last night me and my partner were talking about our finances/debts and the debt we took out whilst I was on MAT leave. The conversation ended with us re jigging how we pay things and now we’re not splitting our money (which was his idea to begin with) and he said he will start to attack our debts and that means he’s chucking more of his money into our joint debts and how that’s what he’s doing for us. Am I wrong for not feeling super grateful as the reason we’re in this debt and the reason we originally put our money together is because we agreed to have a child. It feels like he’s saying oh I’m so great to our relationship because I’m paying off more of our debts - when in reality he earns over 20k more than me a year & we took out these debts on the basis of our incomes being put together?? I don’t know I just need some other opinions on this please haha
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I would say he’s a great partner for trying to clear your debts, I understand he is on more money therefore he definitely should be putting more towards to bills/debts but I do think he is kind for allowing you to not have to pay the debts you both took out, but I wasn’t in the conversation so I don’t know how he has said it etc. maybe have a talk with him about it again and just explain that he should already be paying more as he is on more money x
Thanks Olivia, I think I need to re adjust my view that not everything he says is getting at me and making him out to be better! Thank you :) x
If they’re joint debts you took on together by your logic should you not both be paying them back? I think he’s great tbh. More money or not you took the debt out together but he’s offering to clear it for you x
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