How many of you SAHMs make your husbands' lunch everyday?

Does he get a sandwich plus 3 other items? Does he take care of himself? My husband's been so weird (back and forth) about this issue and I can't figure out if it's my problem or his.

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I wish I could! My husband works out of town 2-3 weeks at a time 🥲 I feel like making their lunches shows them some appreciation and our love

I always make enough at supper to send him with a small portion of left overs. There’s the odd time when we have something that doesn’t necessarily make left overs, or something that doesnt reheat well and those days he doesn’t get a lunch.

Hes never taken a lunch to work before me, so hes used to it and sometime prefers it because it makes dinner that much better for him apparently… lol

Yes, if he’s working from home and I’m at home I’ll make him lunch along with mine and the toddlers or it looks rude 😂😂 Am I his mummy sending him off to school with a packed lunch? No absolutely not he’s a grown man and I’ve got enough on my plate 🤷‍♀️ I think it can be a nice thing if it’s something you want to do and have time for but at the end of the day you’re already doing a lot to support his career by being a stay at home mum and it’s not right of him to demand this from you. What does he want you to do, get up early and make his sandwich, or do it while he relaxes in the evening? Realistically if it can be worked into your day it could absolutely be worked into his. I’d ask him whether his lunch is really what he thinks you should be prioritising. Tbh if he thinks this would be super easy to fit in to your day then he probably doesn’t spend enough time with the kid(s)

Nope i supervise my two year old 😂

So my husband works from home up in the office so my 2 and a half year old loves making sandwiches for his dad so my husband lives off sandwiched for lunch sometimes they are weird combos but he loves them anyway 🤣🤣

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Hey 👋 my husband(32) and I(30) have been married for nine years with 2 kids. He is either out of town working or working from about 7am to 5pm on the days he is home. I work at a school so we get home around 330pm.
I feel like little things have afded up over the years and i am just done since nothing has changed. I have been asking my husband for years to help me around the house without asking. He does the dishes and thats about it for the most part. He is consistently making jokes and trying to play around and tickle me as if I am a sibling and I absolutely hate it. He will come up to me and hug me and try to be affectionate during the times I am occupied such as cleaning or cooking. For the past couple years about once a month after letting everything bottle up I let it out and get mad. He will tell me he is trying and he will work on it and he does that for about a week before going back to his normal self which consists of him going to work, coming home and sitting on his phone while eating dinner, taking a 45 minute shower and then scrolling on his phone or playing the xbox. It was not always like this but for the past 4 or 5 years it's been like this and I always told myself that it was okay because I was a stay at home mom but now that I am working, nothing will get done if I dont do it. I dont know what to do but I feel like I have been distant and he is noticing and now trying to be helpful and affectionate in the way I wanted years ago. I'm so confused and frustrated.

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I’m just burnt out

I need some advice because I want to know if I’m being unreasonable or if this situation really is unfair.

There are 3 adults including me and 2 kids in our household. During the week, weekends 5 adults. One child is 5 years old and my bf son, and the other is my 5-month-old daughter. One of the other adults works night shifts 5 days a week.

My boyfriend expects me to wash the dishes, cook after 5 ppl and two kids, clean the house, help his 5-year-old son with homework, and take care of our baby because he says I have free time and 3/adults work.

His reasoning is that I’m home during the day, so these responsibilities should fall on me. But taking care of a baby is already a full-time responsibility, especially when she’s still so young and needs constant attention.

I don’t mind contributing to the household, but I don’t think being home automatically means I should be responsible for everything. I also feel like helping with his son’s homework and taking care of the household have become my responsibilities by default. His son is very rude to me and that delays homework time.

Am I wrong for feeling like this is unfair? How do other couples divide household responsibilities when one parent stays home with a baby? I genuinely want advice because I’m trying to figure out what’s reasonable and how to approach this situation.