Need to vent
I’m 4 months PP and I feel like I’m losing the connection with my partner. I just can’t stand the way he thinks - ie he has work so he needs to sleep, it’s the weekend so he needs the lay in, it’s a friends birthday or leaving drinks and asks me if he can attend as if I’m going to tell him no…I’m not surprised but I am disappointed. Any advice?
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Girl, Set boundaries with him. Make him take nights, have shifts. You will soon have resentment and feel like a single mother. You need rest too, he has a part to play aswell, he can cry about it. It takes two to tango.
And I’ll remind you Mama that you are allowed to feel disappointed. Communicate that with him. Tell him what you need from him ie, going out on dates, that you want to spend time with him. If you have help from family then maybe have a night out with just the 2 of you.
As someone who has experienced this, you need to tell him how you are feeling and get it sorted out now.
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I’m a FTM to a wonderful 2 month old girl! I am trying to get back to making my own money so I don’t have to depend on my fiancé for everything so I’m exploring the world of insurance. I got my license to sell life insurance last year and didn’t do anything with it so I figured I’d try it out.. I got connected with a company that has daily 8am training calls and other meeting throughout the day.
I’m struggling with how to juggle attending the meetings and doing all the things at home.
My fiancé thinks I’m making a big deal out of it and it’s completely doable because he will take care of baby while Im on meetings which is great! However him taking care of baby while I’m in meetings is him holding her while she is sleep or maybe feeding her.
There’s still dishes and bottles and cleaning and cooking that has to be done. And I’m exclusively pumping to breastfeed her. Yes it’s very helpful for him to take care of her during that time it’s just I know nothing else is getting done during that time cuz men don’t multi talk like women do.
I just feel like I never stop moving during the day there is always something to be done.
I tried getting baby to a schedule where she is sleep from 8-9am but that doesn’t always work.
My fiancé can be super helpful at times but when he has her it’s like as soon as she’s sleep or quiet he wants to put her down to go outside to smoke or play his game and 8 times out of 10 baby wakes up or starts fussing while he’s doing that and I have to resume duties. I don’t mind but I literally can’t do that if I’m working. Or constantly leave my meetings to go get him to get her..
maybe I’m rambling at this point or maybe I’m really the issue and just need to do more idk.
Either way thanks for letting me vent 🥰
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Should I talk to my In law about it or just get over it? 🤔
Long story short, I added my MIL to a chat for my daughter’s birthday party. She had been feeling disconnected from my daughter so I thought this would be a nice way to keep her involved.
Well, she’s been buying things for the party and telling me after the fact, then I feel like an ass for saying no.
I know she is seeing the chat because she replies to everything but I’m just getting frustrated because she hits me with the “I just thought she would like it, but your in charge” or the “Whatever you want, mother knows best”… I appreciate the good intentions but I just end up feeling horrible for saying No, because it’s not on theme. This birthday is special to me and it’s the first one my daughter and I are actually planning together.
Should I just get over it or talk to her about it, because I feel like I opened the door by adding her to the chat. 🤔
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My child got suspended from school for several days, should I not allow them to go trick or treating?
I’ve called pediatricians office for emergency behavioral health services. Already sees therapist. Already in special ed for ADHD.
First incident- grabbed a kids shirt collar and the school says was “choking” them. The school didn’t have a very strong reaction to this incident which I find weird since it seems to be the most shocking of all of them ?
Second incident- called the kid fat, loser, slow etc after several times of being told to stop.
Third- when already being told can’t go to recess, pushed past teacher and ran outside refusing to come back in.
When the first incident happened, my child refused to talk to me or any adult about what happened and still refuses.
Basically all these incidents my child admits that they did them but refuses to share their side of the story or any details, claims they “don’t remember” and that they feel bad.
Since my child’s suspended for the next several days, they won’t get to participate in any school Halloween activities going on this week. I canceled our Halloween trip to see family. They’re home doing chores right now since I had to call out of work. No tv for the entire duration of suspension.
So far, i am also thinking no trick or treating. Is that too far ?
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