Married to a black sheep (rant)
I have to leave everything behind and go with my husband to the US but he’s not really good with his family. They love our baby but me saying we can stay with them as long as we want til we get our own place but we and his family are not getting along well. We don’t have any big drama with each other but no matter what I do, I am just my husband wife. I feel so lonely living new life. I am grateful they provide us a place to live but I feel emotionally isolated. There’re sometimes I reach out if we can go to a coffee shop together, you know do some girls stuff but since I have a baby it’s hard for them cos my baby doesn’t like the car or I don’t have my own car so MIL and SIL would always just go together do they hair and nails, etc. I feel so out of the loop and lonely. For months their family group chat didn’t include me and if my husband showed what they were talking about MIL got mad like it was none of my business…
It’s not like I care or I’m chasing inclusion, I just need a friend.
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I’m so sorry you feel this way, it must’ve been hard dealing with all that.
First, you need to talk to your husband and be honest with him. He needs to know how they treat you.
Second, you need to move out of their house as soon as possible! Talk to your husband that you need to find any place else to stay in even if it’s a 1 bedroom apartment for now.
For your in laws, ignore them, don’t talk to them or ask them to take you anywhere. Find friends in your area and have your husband pay for your uber. Be strong and sit boundaries to yourself so no one can take advantage of you.
My husband loves me and he knows that I feel lonely. He couldn’t understand why his own family would be that bad but we never know.
We’re in the process of buying a house so it’s gonna take a while.
I thought staying with his family would be better for our child knowing grandparents and husband’s relationship with them. They are less detached since we have our baby tho.
But is it actually better if we move out?? At least they’re physically nearby, I’m afraid I will be more isolated if we move.
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Married to a black sheep (rant)
I have to leave everything behind and go with my husband to the US but he’s not really good with his family. They love our baby but me saying we can stay with them as long as we want til we get our own place but we and his family are not getting along well. We don’t have any big drama with each other but no matter what I do, I am just my husband wife. I feel so lonely living new life. I am grateful they provide us a place to live but I feel emotionally isolated. There’re sometimes I reach out if we can go to a coffee shop together, you know do some girls stuff but since I have a baby it’s hard for them cos my baby doesn’t like the car or I don’t have my own car so MIL and SIL would always just go together do they hair and nails, etc. I feel so out of the loop and lonely. For months their family group chat didn’t include me and if my husband showed what they were talking about MIL got mad like it was none of my business…
It’s not like I care or I’m chasing inclusion, I just need a friend.
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