My husband affects my mental health

I do my best to have patience and manage the person he is. It’s tough but lately it’s just been very stressful. Anything I ask of him he responds something that I did or didn’t do. Our arguments lately he brings up my parents and their flaws and how I am with my parents. Is that okay??

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Thats not okay. He is deflecting.

That's not ok. Has he always been like that or has it changed? Any reason he might be reacting defensively and deflecting? This is not to say you may be to blame, but it took me months to figure out why my partner was reacting defensively to me. We had to do a lot of work on our communication after our lo arrived - it turned out that having a baby totally changed our relationship dynamic! So it can be a lot of work, but I hope you can get there too 🙏
Non-violent communication tools helped us (I like the podcast, personally, he read the book. But the principles are the same).

What do you mean you do your best to have patience and “manage the person he is”?

I know how hard it is to get out of! But this is not okay. He wont see the wrong he is doing unfortunately. Its a toxic cycle.

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