My feelings for my husband (sorry it’s long)

I think couples counseling and talk therapy would really benefit you and him. I do think that him constantly bringing up you staying at your moms for a night is not normal. My husband and I can be clingy but we are completely fine with not being around each other for a few days. I have gone on girls weekends and he has gone to guys weekends and I also have to occasionally travel for work. I can understand if you go away and the miss you that’s normal and texting while you are away but it is another to be blowing up your phone and then constantly making you feel like you did something wrong for needing a couple days. You also sound like you might be burned out which doesn’t help. Sending positive vibes and that you find the answer you are looking for

That first year after having a baby is so tough. You're both going through a lot of changes, and your relationship changes too. I think the advice you've gotten about couples counselling is a great idea. It's clear the love is still there, you just need to find the spark again. It also sounds like you're not communicating with each other very effectively, and counselling could really help with that.

Your feelings are completely valid. His views are unhealthy because one, he can’t fix everything. Humans are community based and we can’t possibly have all our needs met by one person. And honestly that sounds very isolating for you that he can’t even give you the space for you to go to your mom’s. Secondly, when someone who loves and respects you, will respect your boundaries when you say you need a couple days away. It seems very insecure of him that he can’t be away from you for 2 days. He needs to seek professional help, cuz his views aren’t healthy and it’s gonna suffocate you. And thirdly, it’s also not healthy or helpful to keep bringing it up. Cuz you did nothing wrong! And what’s worse is you feel like a monster for wanting 2 days for yourself! Like seriously this is beyond clingy, this is unhealthy and he needs help cuz he sounds dependent and/insecure. And you need time away without feeling you did something wrong, cuz again you did nothing wrong

Its a red flag if you're asking for space and he cannot respect you and give it to you. I have days where i flat out tell my husband "I just need some time alone" not that he or my son has done anything wrong. He and my son will go out and about and come home later and I'm good. Sometimes we just get so overwhelmed we need some time alone to collect ourselves. Your husband and you can still co parent and both parties can still be amazing parents even if you are not together. You shouldn't stay if you are miserable just because you have a child together. That child will grow up in a home and see the disconnect and think that is what a home should look like. You need to figure out what you want. If you want to stay with him you have got to teach him to give you space and respect your boundaries.

I understand you. Find hobbies , get your nails done . Go a day on a spa . Don’t forget about yourself . Maybe you spend too much time doing nothing that makes you feel good . Go to the gym . Go to Pilates . Have a friends date . Keep your mind busy . Go for a walk and some fresh air . Take time for yourself .