Extremely sensitive baby
Struggling at the moment with baby getting very over stimulated when we go out anywhere. Little one is 8 months and has always been very sensitive and gets overstimulated easily. She is breastfed so boob has always been her comfort, but recently she refuses to feed when out and about because shes so distracted with the world, but then has full blown meltdowns because shes hungry/tired. I've tried nursing covers, moving to a quieter place, giving her something to fiddle with but nothing seems to work and I feel completely lost that i'm not able to calm her down and comfort her with boob. We went to our first playgroup today, something I've avoided until now due to my own social anxiety and although it was lovely, I came away feeling really upset and defeated because as much as I know every baby is different, its heartbreaking seeing every other baby happy, smiling and playing or breastfeeding like a dream when my baby spent the entire time wanting to be cuddled and rocked and then had to leave early because she was getting upset from all the noise and was tired but unable to sleep.
She will be starting nursery in a few months and i'm really worried that she wont settle well there as shes always been a terrible napper, very clingy with me and has gotten very used to 1 on 1 play, whereas the nursery she will be going to has 1 staff member per 3 children. I desperately want to enjoy the last little bit of my maternity leave and have lots of fun with her out and about, and also get her used to busier environments and different faces but recently every time we have gone out she has got so upset and I feel guilty. We just had 2 lovely chilled days at home and she was the happiest she's ever been so i feel torn!
Ot doesnt really help that unfortunately we've had several people comment on how grumpy she is or be judgemental about how we 'pander' to her and its amplified my anxiety so much and made me feel like a really crappy mum.
Has anyone else who has experienced a super grumpy/sensitive baby got any tips for going out? When did it start to get better? And how did you ease the transition into nursery?
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My little boy is 6 months and sensitive/‘grumpy’. I’ve done one baby class and like you, came away feeling defeated. All other babies were fine but mine has a meltdown and gets very shouty very quickly. And he only really settles with dad which also makes me feel inadequate.
Like you, feeding public used to be problem, but a cover has helped and actually being out and about more so he has a lot of exposure to it.
The other thing is our carrier. If he needs a nap we put him in the carrier and have a bucket hat that we put on him which hides away the world and makes him go to sleep pretty quickly.
I have heard when it comes to nursery that they sometimes sleep and play better without us there so she might surprise you.
My baby was like this and we’ve only just started getting out of the grumpy stage going to places now at nearly 17 months. I found it easier to stick with one group once a week that also felt like a safe space for me as well as her if she did start to get grumpy. I also found doing short little trips out to the shops and extending it a little bit further each time and now she’s quite happy to sit in the trolley or pram when we go out. I had and still have so many comments about pandering to my baby and my response is always I know my baby best and I haven’t asked your opinion. We haven’t started nursery yet but we have started slowly leaving her with family for short periods and she typically is absolutely fine.
I promise it does get better even on the days when you feel like it’s getting worse, if you ever need a listening ear my messages are always open 🫶🏻
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Extremely sensitive baby
Struggling at the moment with baby getting very over stimulated when we go out anywhere. Little one is 8 months and has always been very sensitive and gets overstimulated easily. She is breastfed so boob has always been her comfort, but recently she refuses to feed when out and about because shes so distracted with the world, but then has full blown meltdowns because shes hungry/tired. I've tried nursing covers, moving to a quieter place, giving her something to fiddle with but nothing seems to work and I feel completely lost that i'm not able to calm her down and comfort her with boob. We went to our first playgroup today, something I've avoided until now due to my own social anxiety and although it was lovely, I came away feeling really upset and defeated because as much as I know every baby is different, its heartbreaking seeing every other baby happy, smiling and playing or breastfeeding like a dream when my baby spent the entire time wanting to be cuddled and rocked and then had to leave early because she was getting upset from all the noise and was tired but unable to sleep.
She will be starting nursery in a few months and i'm really worried that she wont settle well there as shes always been a terrible napper, very clingy with me and has gotten very used to 1 on 1 play, whereas the nursery she will be going to has 1 staff member per 3 children. I desperately want to enjoy the last little bit of my maternity leave and have lots of fun with her out and about, and also get her used to busier environments and different faces but recently every time we have gone out she has got so upset and I feel guilty. We just had 2 lovely chilled days at home and she was the happiest she's ever been so i feel torn!
Ot doesnt really help that unfortunately we've had several people comment on how grumpy she is or be judgemental about how we 'pander' to her and its amplified my anxiety so much and made me feel like a really crappy mum.
Has anyone else who has experienced a super grumpy/sensitive baby got any tips for going out? When did it start to get better? And how did you ease the transition into nursery?
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