My mom hates me for being pregnant

Im 20years old and im still in college so I can see why she would be a little upset about me being pregnant, but i feel like she could atleast show some sort of support instead she’s acting like i just revealed im a drug addict at 13 years old. I told her during my first trimester that I was pregnant and she did not believe me and called me a liar, after my lease ended I decided to move back in since it was becoming very hard on me financially to live on my own. Now i’m halfway through my second trimester and my bump is obviously more noticeable so she asked me why I look so fat, I told her i’m pregnant and that this wasn’t my first time telling her, she immediately told me I have no business being in her house if i’m pregnant, that i’ll never finish college, and that i’m just stupid for doing this. She didn’t show a lick of concern such as is the pregnancy healthy or have I been visiting an OB.. nothing. I have no idea what to do moving forward, I don’t want to live here anymore with such hostile energy but I don’t even have a job or enough money saved up to leave. I don’t have any other family members I could stay with and I just feel so incredibly hurt that she’s showing such hatred towards me when she did the same thing as well (pregnant with me at 20 herself)

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You’re gonna have to block her negative thoughts out because then they’re done that my mom was mad as hell when I was pregnant at 21. I would get a therapist if you can.

I’m sorry! Definitely focus on getting a job and even considering room for rent if needed.

My mom tried to make me get an abortion when I was 17 (she didn’t care the 32 year old man she was getting drugs from/ sleeping with/ lived with us was the reason I was pregnant) . I moved in with my grandma and when my daughter was three my mother came around and put alcohol in her juice (luckily something told me to try the juice) anyway my grandma called the cops on her to get her off her property and my mom told the cops I give my child alcohol and I’m legally not supposed to have her and the man who 🍇 me and her had custody. Anyway being pregnant made me stand up to my mom and kick her out of my life. And I have not seen her in 6 years and hope to never see her again. Kids are a blessing each child will bring something special, if you’re mom can’t support you she doesn’t deserve you. Hopefully, there are women’s shelters you can go to or get a job work a lot to be able to get away. Being a mom you will find strength out of nowhere 💗

Ooh I’m angry for you. I’m so sorry your mom is being so awful. I hope you can find a place to go and set up boundaries and get the support and care you need. Ugh and if she suddenly decides shes all entitled to visit baby after she treated you so horribly and has NOT been valuing the human life in your womb already, that’s be a big fat NO from me 🙅🏻‍♀️ Yeah sure college is important but I’d argue that your baby is even more so. College can come later, that is ok. So bizarre because she should be showing empathy since you said she also got pregnant at the same age but I guess she had different expectations and plans for you and is choosing hostility….So sad. Take care of yourself 🫂

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