Can’t believe I’m posting this as I swore it wouldn’t be me. But my baby is 2 weeks tomorrow and I just wish my cat wasn’t here. I wish he could just go in a cat hotel for a few months. I feel like he makes my anxiety 10x worse. He jumped on her highchair whilst she was in it and she has a tiny scratch on her arm. It makes me honestly hate him. Then I feel so terribly guilty, it’s not his fault at all and I think he can sense my energy. Did anyone else get this and when did it go away? I want to love him the way I did asap.
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I'm 11 days pp and starting to feel this way towards my cat. She isn't jumping / near the baby but I feel like she's getting in the way when I'm stressing about making bottles or changing nappies, and I keep finding cat hair all over clothes I've just washed and it's annoying me.. I also didn't think I'd be like this!
No real advice from me other than I tried to spend some 1-on-1 time with the cat while my hubby did a feed/nappy change and it was kind of nice, but didn't fix my feelings

Hi I didn’t have this specifically but I know lots of people who did and it’s super super normal, it passes as your hormones settle. You’re so freshly post partum too so give yourself some time. If you feel you aren’t able to give him the best anymore, perhaps give him to someone who will (maybe a family member or friend so you don’t feel so far away from him?)
It’ll get easier. I remember being 2 weeks post partum and kind of hating everyone, even my baby, so it’s pretty normal xx

So this might be a bit much but when we brought our baby home we just didn't have the time to spend with our cat and I felt so incredibly guilty, especially when she got in the way I got angry. A few months in she was diagnosed with cancer and then disappeared and hasn't been seen since. And we are all devastated as I really wanted my girl to grow up with her. I'm guessing I'm just saying to remember them, it's hard for them to adjust too and hopefully as time progresses you'll feel differently 🧡

This was me too when my son was born. My cat even peed in his cot twice. It really got to me. Any opportunity and my cat would be in his cot maybe wanting my attention I’m not sure. It took a while for me to be back to normal with him but now he’s still as cuddly as ever and he isn’t upset about it. It’s definitely the hormones. Things will get better with time. If you have someone around you, ask them to take more care of the cat so you can focus on the baby. My husband started to take care of the cat which helped me a lot. It will get easier x

Me and my fiancé was in a similar situation with our cats, We have a boy and a girl and was very weary and wondering what they’d be like around our daughter, At first they was jumping and laying on all her belongings but after a short time of keep telling them no they learnt what they’d could and couldn’t lay on, They haven’t been bothered with our daughter it’s just her things, It will get better it’s just a bit of training, In regards to feeding as well as our cats love the smell of our daughters milk what kind of high chair are you using for your little one as we’re going to be looking into something soon for our girl x
We are on holiday with my 1 year old baby! I was washing few things outside on the bathroom which is outdoor, and he kept calling me because the baby was crying! I shouted and said “omg why instead of you shouting at me you do something to keep your baby calm” he grabbed me through my arm and started shouting “ why are you always shouting! I am constantly embarrassed by you!” He said some many hurtful things that it’s not even worth mentioned! But the thing is, I feel he is a good guy but he actually doesn’t love me! So he feels frustrated! I just don’t know how I will start my life over! Just for context, we do not fight all the time! We do get along pretty well! But when he is frustrated I feel he liberates his hidden hatred! I just don’t know what to do! I know tnrw he will say sorry that he loves me bla bla!
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Has anyone been cheated on and stayed and things got better?
My partner cheated on me last night. She came home really late and seemed a bit flighty, after a lengthy conversation she explained that a few drinks led from one thing to another and it all “just happened”. And if it was a kiss maybe I could get past it, but it was sex and I’m struggling.
I don’t want to make rash decisions and leave her but I’m struggling to process it all. I have 3 kids who rely on me so I don’t get a chance to grieve my relationship, I just have to carry on and I have no friends to tell. She’s gone to her friends house for a few days to give me space and I’ve had a headache and nausea that’s not shifted. I’m just really heartbroken rn and maybe it would be easy to move on if she was horrible but she’s not, she’s amazing with our kids, she’s always done everything for me and I just don’t know where to go from here.
I don’t want to hear that I should leave her, I want to hear from people who have gone through this and things eventually got better
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My daughter has a shared bus stop. There’s another little girl at the stop, and I’d like to talk about what I witnessed this morning and if this is something you’d report.
Today, I witnessed the mom search her daughter’s back pack at the bus stop and confiscated a hairbrush. She told her daughter school is not a fashion show and she’s not allowed to brush her hair. The little girls hair is matted and she told her mom the teacher could fix it and asked her to bring a brush, so the mom went off the wall that she’s going to get the teacher fired and open a lawsuit against the school for inappropriately touching her child without consent. Her daughter asked if she could please just brush her hair so the other girls didn’t say she looked scruffy, and mom told her once again school is about learning and not a fashion show. She then said a he’d make her a hair appointment to cut it all off so they didn’t have to worry about the matting, but the girl was crying she just wanted to brush it out and have long pretty hair. Her mom was very angry and told her again it’s not a fashion show. She got on the bus crying, with no hair brush and it was left untouched.
I’ve seen other small things before, like not letting her take her backpack to school and the little girl crying that she’d get in trouble for not having it and the man (not sure if it’s her dad) telling her it’s her fault, even though they had plenty of time to go back for the backpack.
I mean I know people parent differently, but this just felt cruel. Brushing your hair is about hygiene not fashion. Am i overreacting?
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Frustrated and venting. Not looking for the standard “divorce him” comment.
Told my husband sorry for blaming him for something and he said “you’re always wrong” with such smug conviction. Which pissed me off and makes me not want to do a damn thing for him.
I have a lot of other things I could say but for respect to God I won’t 🙄.
Just mad and didn’t want to hold this one in.
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My fiancé has told me twice now he doesn't think I'm doing a good enough job or enough as a mom and I've disappointed him. Our son is 5 weeks old tomorrow. His main complaint is that I don't seem happy enough when he gets home from work and I act like spending all day raising our son is a chore and he would like time to relax after work instead of me immediately asking him to do something or "bombarding him as soon as he walks in the door". I handle all the night feedings, he's done it twice since he was born to let me sleep, and he's gotten up with him in the morning twice. He was upset with me on Saturday for asking him to get up with him at 8:30 so I could sleep in because he wanted just one day to sleep in. I understand his frustration but I don't think I deserved that. I'm a first time mom, I'm still figuring this all out, and I just had a c-section 5 weeks ago, and I havent slept more than 3 hours straight since he was born because even on the nights he gets up with him I have to pump. I am excited when he gets home from work because I have a person to talk to and someone to share this with. I see why he's frustrated but I don't think he's giving me enough grace or putting himself in my perspective. He says I feel like a stranger to him now, he's disappointed, and he's not sure he wants to marry me anymore. I don't know what to do.
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My son is 2. I’m solo parenting. I work 9-5 remote. When he wakes up from his nap around 2-3pm I struggle to keep him entertained until I finish my shift so end up putting the tv on. He now is getting upset when I turn it off and is now watching it longer than I’d like him to. He is watching on average 2 hours a day when I’d prefer him to watch less than 1 hour as per guidelines. Any at home activities I can set up for him? Pls recommend!!! I’m desperate!!!!
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