Break-up at 21 weeks - heartbroken with no support

I was single for 5 months of my first pregnancy although I was still kind of seeing him from time to time he was doing stuff behind my back. I felt heartbroken as it was my first baby I was excited and wanted that perfect family life. I felt so lonely throughout a lot of my pregnancy despite having friends and some family around. It wasn’t a nice experience so I can feel you on this one. I just had to power through and think of my baby and how great life was going to be once he was here. My baby was the reason I kept going. Your baby feels everything you feel so you have to try and stay positive although I know that’s easier said than done. You may be able to work things out with him? If it was over a few minor things maybe he will come round see sense and apologise but if he doesn’t just know you’ll be an amazing mum. Motherhood can be hard don’t get me wrong and especially if you are new to it. But I hope you have a support system around you so you’re not completely on your own.

But you will navigate everything and everything happens for a reason try to stay strong. And I’m sorry this has happened to you x

And I did end up back with my sons dad in the end but it was a very rocky process but now we are expecting our second son so things can get better x

Hey Corrie, thanks for your messages. It's hard, he tend to escalate disagreement into arguments, threaten to break- up/move-out. His main coping mechanisms is to run away. I can't even count how many time he has broken up wirh me in a year and a half. It has been 5 times since I found out I was pregnant.

I do want to work it out, but how if every argument threatens the survival of the relationship? I feel so hopeless.

How did you and your partner worked it out in the end?

You’re welcome 🩷and I agree that must be very hard. He needs to learn to control his emotions better and actually consider the fact you’re pregnant. Men will never fully understand as they never have to go through it. If he’s constantly like that then you deserve so much better anyway! Maybe see how things are when the baby’s born and things are still the same then maybe go your separate ways but try to coparent for your child. And in the end I just had to forgive him for the things he done when I was pregnant. We agreed to get back together when my son was born and try work things out don’t get me wrong I’d say for the first maybe 6 months of my sons life things were still up and down and things still haven’t been perfect since and he’s now 2 but I feel like if you truly love someone you just find a way to make it work. But good communication is definitely key for a relationship to work out. We try to have date nights when we can or a bit of time to ourselves. X