Attached baby
Without sounding insensitive to my LO, is anyone else’s baby super clingy. I am a ftm and finding a lot of the time I can’t leave my baby longer than a hour or two without him hysterically crying at this point I will come back and take over from dad or grandparents. I cannot do a lot of basic necessities for myself a lot of days.. sometimes he won’t even want to sit with them if I’m in the room too. Does anyone have any tips to help my baby be more comfortable with family or is this just normal?
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Your baby is so young, they’re biologically driven to want to be close to you. They’re starting to realise you’re separate people and you can leave and they don’t know if you’ll be back. They won’t always need you this intensely. It’s tough but it isn’t forever. My first son I couldn’t even put down to wee he’d scream until he was sick, he’s now 3 and won’t even give me a cuddle half the time!
Yeah this is most babies I think 😂 it is hard, but it won’t always be this way. Both mine just screamed if I put them down for a second and it is intense. But equally I’d give anything for my 3 year old to actually wanna cuddle me now 😢
He’s literally a baby, biologically his place is meant to be with you that’s how his brain works. It’s exactly how he’s meant to act and is healthy attachment, anyone trying to say otherwise is talking nonsense. Make the most of it, it all goes too fast x
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