Returning to work…

How are you mom’s planing to return to work? My little guy is only 5 weeks old but I’m starting to tour daycares to ensure he has a spot. My leave ends December 23rd and I’m really struggling with the idea of anyone else caring for him. Every time I think about it I just break into tears…

Thoughts or words of encouragement needed.🥺

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BEST FRIEND NEEDED!!!

hiii I’m Claire! I am looking for people to become close with either through texting or in person ❤️

am i being extreme or what?

when i was around 7/8 months pregnant, i went through my husbands phone and saw he was liking 30+ women’s pictures on twitter, one of them were even prompting to like the picture if you would dm them, and he liked it. i wanted a divorce (not valid in my religion during pregnancy anyways) but he pleaded, did the most, cried, said he made a mistake and whatever tf he said. he changed his phone password lol, i asked for the new one, he gave it to me but thought i wouldn’t remember it, anyways now 14 months postpartum, we’re so distant romantically, my attraction and trust for him have never been the same but i was still trying you know? he almost never initiates sex, i co sleep and breast fed my LO to sleep and have been struggling so bad to stop i’ve been exhausted so i pleaded him to help me wean her off, so i can have time for myself and our marriage, he was always nonchalant about it, unbothered, delaying, anyways the other day something urged me to check his phone, i find he has been looking for masturbating sex toys and local escorts, happy ending erotic massage services. Lol another part of me has died, i confront him and he says i pushed him to that, that he’s never actually done anything physically he was just looking because he was angry at me (nothing happened on the day btw we even had a good evening out as a family but i guess he forgot to get his story straight) proceeds to list all the issues he has (ive been evil, i bully him apparently, i project my external issues with others onto him, i demasculate him, i never listen etc…) proceeds to cry a few tears, i just zoned out mid conversation, i feel like i was already quite emotionally checked out prior to what i saw, very sexually deprived/unsatisfied (i even find myself thinking about experiences with other people from the past, btw these exs have also tried reaching out several times during my marriage and i just block, he doesn’t even know the temptations ive been fighting and staying loyal to our marriage and has the audacity) anyways i’ve been thinking about how divorce life would be for ages (because of constant personality clashes, low romantic feelings/attraction etc), now i think this is a reason for divorce? but im a sahm, im completing my university degree (have like 2.5 years left) since i found out he has been doing the most, chores, compliments, giving me time to nap, even fully took care of bed time without me breast feeding for the first time, i really want a divorce but now im like should i stay till i finish this degree, save up whatever i can, apply for a jobs abroad, surprise him with a divorce and heal from the divorce in a fresh new life abroad with my daughter. Idk man, why can’t men be normal, i was actually such a good wife to him i just have no support from family since the beginning of my postpartum till this day, i didn’t get a full night sleep for 14 months ( i wake up around 7-15 times in the night) until last night, he has been so incompetent and sees almost the bare minimum as being a good husband and dad, when it’s just not enough for me. Now another part of my love for him has just died and burned away, men really do love bitches, and i think it’s time to be the biggest bitch until i think it’s my time to go. And the way i feel now i couldn’t care less if he sleeps with the neighbors dog or whoever, he really killed a part of me, if he couldn’t respect me as a wife or partner he could’ve at least respected me as the mother of his child, but no. So game on i guess 🤝

How are we making money?

How are we making money as stay at home moms? Im not creative enough or have the time to make stuff to sell, im not pretty or unique enough to start social media, selling my kids old stuff doesnt ever yield much result, I need to go through my clothes to sell but thats not a long term way to make money.
I want to be able to fund things I want to do for myself without making my husband have to pay for everything, but I just dont know how to make money with the minimal time and energy I have. Its starting to make me depressed.

Mum group

I’m completely putting myself out there here, but I was wondering if there are any lovely ladies who would be interested in meeting up and forming a little friendship group? ❤️

Most of my friends have older children, so I find it quite difficult to find people to do toddler-friendly things with my wild little boy 😂 My family also live about an hour away, so it would be really lovely to make some local mum friends.

I’m talking coffee dates, walks, playdates, honest messages, absolutely no judgement, mums’ nights out and everything in between!

Just a little group of mums who can support each other, have a laugh, share the highs and lows and navigate this crazy journey of motherhood together whilst trying to keep each other sane! 😂❤️

If anyone else is in the same boat, I’d love to hear from you! X

Can you love your kids so much and at the same time missing your life before having them?

I really love my children, and I enjoy playing and spending time with them! seeing them growing is the biggest blessing.. BUT I don’t recognise myself anymore. I used to have so much social life, plenty of friends, dates with my husband, travels and free time to eat out, going to galleries, theatre and now I am doing nothing at all.. just home, work, cooking, prepping things for my kids. Who am I now??

Is it normal to feel lonely?

Is anyone else feeling lonely during pregnancy? People who I thought were friends don’t bother to message or check in. Family members don’t either.
I’m not expecting everyone to constantly message me or anything like that, but even just once in a while it would be nice to get something to say “how are you/bump doing”.
I feel like I’ve got no friends to talk to about anything really and my partner seems dismissive of things I try to tell him about the pregnancy. I get he’s busy working almost 7 days a week currently but it just gets me down.