Feeling severely overwhelmed

I am feeling so overwhelmed that i actually feel so teary eyed. I
I am sitting in my 8 months old cot, my almost 3 year old is finally sleeping, I’ve been trying to eat my dinner since 8pm
I have no family nearby which means since I was pregnant with my toddler, it’s been constant, no break and it’s really starting to get to me
It’s so bad that I actually went through Labour and delivery alone with my second because we couldn’t find anyone to watch our toddler overnight so my husband had to stay with her while I went
I’ve been solo parenting this week and I just really really feel completely and utterly overwhelmed by it all
I’ve always thought I was handling it well but it’s all starting to get to me and I don’t know how to stop it

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Am I being unreasonable?

Need to have a bit of a rant. Am I being unreasonable?
Me and my husband have a 3 month old daughter. He had a week of leave off when she was born, he was great - supportive, helped at nights, ensured there was always food to eat. Took another week of paternity leave 3 months later and treated it like his own personal holiday; went to the gym every day, cleaned his car and made sure we visited his parents.
He comes home from work and most nights goes on his phone and doesn't interact with our baby girl until bedtime, will do her nappy (if I ask him to) and doesn't help at night because 'he has work in the morning'. He heats dinner up as we meal prepped before we had our baby but that tends to be about it. During the day I tidy, clean up, do the clothes washing, walk the dog - all with a 3 month old and exclusively breastfeeding. Our original plan which I remind him is that on the weekends he will wake to do nappies then go downstairs in the morning to bottle feed so I can get another hour of sleep before we start our day. I think that happened twice.
Am I being unreasonable? Am I asking or expecting too much? Most of the time I feel like I'm solo parenting even though he is in the house living with us. I feel sad as we've been together 12 years, married 1 and when we talked about raising children I never expected to be in this position.

Bad cleaner?

Just asking for advice, I’ve found a cleaner (uk England) that charges £20 she’s an independent cleaner so is not through an agency.
Very nice lady etc etc but both times she’s been here I’ve noticed she doesn’t empty the bathroom bin which I thought she would do nor cleaned the mirror and I’ve also notice she doesn’t always clean under some units in the dining room nor the bed (I understand is tricky to use the hoover in this due to the space ).

What are your thoughts? I ask her to come for 3 hours both times and both times she’s told me that 3 hours might be too much for what she’s got to do which is a general cleaning for 2 bedrooms, one bathroom, etc.
I don’t understand why if she “has spare time” why wouldn’t she perform a better cleaning.
And yes, both times she’s stayed for the 3 hours and that’s what we paid her.

Bit random butttt

I have gone Christmas decoration mad this year and my partner is going to kill me. I am so excited. Last year I had a tiny baby and now that baby is starting to understand more and I genuinely think he will love the decorating. I have an obsession with lights and I just love decorating for birthdays, Christmas etc. I have also just found out I am pregnant and Im beyond excited and feel like going overboard. Anyway my partner HATES any sort of decorating and especially hates Christmas not really sure why he just does and Ive been told absolutely NO decorations until 1st December. I have bought so much and got so many ideas in my head I just want to get started🤣 Im wondering whether I just ignore Mr Scrooge and get cracking and deal with the consequences after or whether to actually listen to him and wait 🤣. I have so many ideas for inside and outside and the Christmas decoration collection keeps growing 🙈🙈. I loved the experience of Christmas and all the decorating when I were a kid and I just really want to keep that spirit and magic alive. I also think the in laws are coming this year so want to make some effort even though they are as miserable as my partner lol. Has anyone else got any decorations up yet?

Exhausted SAHM

My partner just doesn’t get it. I’m with our baby all day from middle of the night feedings to all throughout the day, I look forward to him coming home so I can get some help or a break! But he’ll have our son for little bits at a time, until he hands him over to me. Saying “I think he wants his mommy” and I don’t say anything bc I feel guilty for wanting my body to myself, my alone time or just lay on the couch without my baby on me or crying for me. He’s 2 months old so we’re at the crying for everything stage, only can be put to bed by me and I’m so grateful but I’m soooo tired!!! And my partner just doesn’t know how to read the room. Ik I need to communicate this to him but at the same time I just don’t want to ask, I just want him to do things without me asking or getting to a breaking point.